MY oldest DD is four years old, and her friend's father just passed away after an accident. The friend is six, and she has asked us several times if we are coming to the funeral. Dh and I plan to go, (they are also our neighbours) but I don't know if we should take Elyse. It's a lot for a 4 yr old to take in, and too much for her to understand. I have explained death as best I can to her, and that her friend and her mother are very sad, but feel like the funeral might be too difficult. What do you think? Should I just take her and deal with the questions as they come, or shield her from this a little longer? She's pretty sensitive. I don't want her to be frightened either.