Thanks all for your advice and kind thoughts.

We ended up taking her to the service/funeral at the church and then my parents took her home. I was so so so proud of my gorgeous girl . She was perfectly behaved and very respectful and took it all in. She cried when DH got up and did the eulogy and when she recognised the people/events he was talking about. When he came and sat back down she climbed onto his lap crying for her Baba. She saw Baba's coffin being taken away and called it "Baba's treasure chest" which was so sweet, and we took her yesterday tot he gravesite whilst it is pretty and covered in flowers. She bent down to the flowers and ground and talked to Baba telling her about her day - it was lovely.

She nearly broke our hearts the other day tho when she proceeded to tell us out of the blue that all she wanted for her birthday was for Baba to come back. Can you tell how much I love this little girl???