Well, i should find out my blood test results in a few hrs, but in the meantime, 3 pg tests over last 3 days have all come back with defn pink lines....
I am b/f (bout 3-4 times a day, 12 hr break at night), on mini pill and live in a 3 bedroom house - LOL - a third was NOT on the cards....
Has anyone gone thru an unplanned pregnancy? I have no idea where bubs is going to sleep, how the hell im going to handle it, will we need a new car?, how will i go food shoppping with 3 littlies?
I know LUCY - a BB member -had a 'oopsie' with her third - *lucy if your out there?*
A zillion ?'s are going thru my mind at moment.
Also, my DH really trully only wanted 2.....and now with a third on the way, he's kinda gone all quiet. He trusts me, but then i feel i am to blame.....
I dont have a lot to offer im sorry, but im sure everything will sort itself out. I bet id be in the same boat as you.... but as they say...expect the unexpected....and that sure rings true in your case. Not expecting to fall PG and you have. As for mini pill failing... how long u been on it? And BF can help...but not always a safe method of contraception.
Dh is probably in shock.Dont blame yourself....it took both of you to DTD and make that bub. I hope you can work out what needs to be done...and goodluck
PS....your lil girl is adorable in the ticker pic!!
ive been on m/pill since i had sophie, so 11 months ago.....ive started working 2 days a week for 4 hrs a day back in November- im still doing it now, just till March. Ive been busy, stressed (with xmas, a house to run, working etc etc) , im thinking maybe my body just thought 'ahh cant cope'.
My doc, whom isnt really my doc, just one whom had a 12noon vacancy, said sometimes our bodies can reject the pill - ??? But why would it accept it all the other times ??
Im pretty fertile, fell pregnant with both girls just by thinking about DTD (LOL), maybe thats a contribution.........???
Yer, she is pretty cute. I cant believe she's mine....
Firstly, reading your post was like reading my own thoughts from this time last year..........so PLEASE know that all the millions of things zooming round your head are TOTALLY natural I reckon!
Lexie was totally unplanned......I was fully BF'ing Charlie AND on the mini-pill. No idea to this day how it happened, it just did. I only ever wanted two babies. Three was NEVER in my plan.
It was a huge shock to me (Charlie was only 5 months old) and it did take me a long time to get my head round the idea. I also felt a load of guilt as I felt like Charlie was "robbed" of being my baby....but honestly, he has not suffered at all!
If I am totally honest I was probably focused a lot on the "practical" stuff (ie not enough bedrooms, change of car, how will we cope ) because I was terrified of the emotional stuff.....do I have enough patience for 3, will I just totally meltdown etc etc.
Looking back, the reason I was in such as spin was because the pregnancy was not PLANNED BY ME........I am self confessed control freak.....I like to plan everything and for things to always be on MY terms.......
By the time I got to 20 weeks I was cool with it all.
And now I look at her and she gurgles at me I cannot imagine life without her. I Love her SO much.
BUT we have had to change cars (I swapped my sexy black mazda for a commodore wagon with wall to wall carseats!) and we are moving to a bigger house..(but we would have most likely done that anyways.)
In terms of meltdowns/health/coping, I swear by In-Liven.
In terms of practicalities, I just plan the week to do grocery shopping at the weekend when DH is home to look after two out of three kids........I take one of them with me...
omg,someone who feels the same as me....
i have just got home with my new little baby,not planned number 4,chantlee is only 15 months old and unfortunantly i did not get my head around it all by the time i had him last thursday.i am still in a spin about it all as i really do have my hands full and i dont think it will really hit me till dh goes back to work next week,lucy you have given me confidence that i am going to be alright,i feel incredible guilt that chantelle is not my baby anymore and that i have a newborn in my arms nearly all the time.we are in the process of buying a new house at the moment anyway and we have an 8 seater 4wd so they are not an issue for us,coping definanlty is though,how am i going to look after 2 babies at once,also tending to the needs of my older boys,the house etc etc.i also feel damn awful that i am not bomding with harry as i did with the others because i still feel like i dont want him.he is georgous and it is not his fault that he is here,i will give him everything he deserves but wish i was happy about it.
nikki
Thanks Lucy, i have emailed you.
Nicole, i remember when you posted your pregnancy annoucement all those months ago, now you have your little boy at home - wow, congrats. Its really difficult isnt it? I suppose we're both at either end of the time line at moment....im sure you will pull thru, and those feelings of guilt will slowly fade with time. I will prob be calling on you in 8 months time, asking "how did you do it?'.
*Hugs*
Last edited by mbear; January 23rd, 2007 at 05:31 PM.
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mbear - you will cope, we are women and what we do best is cope. the doc told us we were pg a few months ago and we had the same fears as you, we didn't end up pg after all but we did get used to the idea of having another one and we will one day. i am a true believer of 'all things happening for a reason' obviously this little bub is meant to be a part of your beautiful family. ur DH will get his head around it soon im sure. big hugs
Nicole - congrats on your beautiful new baby. your feelings sound very natural, im sure little harry will feel just as loved and just as much part of the family as everyone else. im sure u will do a magnificent job with all your children. big hugs
Mbear - well first of all congrats on your pregnancy.
I suppose with you being such a good mum you will be able to cope with 3 little ones. Think about when you have the baby DD1 will be about 2 and Sophie will be getting to the nearer end of her first year so it will be much easier on you then say having twins!!
I know its a shock but give it time!
Getting my head around an unplanned pregnancy
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