Thanks Mez80 I have tried the quiet time etc we have read a story and watched a 5 minute episode of pingu (her fave) together and i even put the milk in her bed next to her incase she changed her mind. She cried for 1/2hr then i was crying too!! i got her back up and gave her a cuddle but as i said she isnt cuddly and she wouldnt relax longer than a minute. I have put her back to bed and she is still whinging but not as worked up as she was. I wouldnt mind if she let me console her but she wont even let me do that so i feel helpless. I am not even supposed to be picking her up as Molly was born via cs but i am finding i have no choice. DH has been very good and normally she will settle for him if not me but not this week. Molly is on the other hand very settled waking only to feed so i am lucky that she is not demanding too much of my attention (yet, lol) I think i am just tired myself and want Mia to be happy i'm not used to having an unsettled toddler.