Well, I don't have a solution but I sure would love to hear one! LOL
DD has done this since she was able to roll and is still doing it now. Sorry I can't help (I tend to stay in the room with her until she is asleep, just ignoring her and saying the occasional 'lie down') but I just wanted to let you know you're not alone
My DD is the same.. she wouldnt let us stroke or pat her to sleep when we went through the whole unsettled period at 6 months so we just lay on the floor next to her cot and have been doing it since. I close my eyes and hear dd playing in bed but she does settle down to sleep. We dont mind staying with her before she goes to sleep and she is fine to settle herself when she wakes during the night...but i wonder what we will do when dd is in a bed hmmmmmm (i see her wanting to come and sleep or jump on us!!)
I'm confused by this. Why don't you want her to move in the cot? Is she able to fall/climb out?
I personally NEVER fall asleep within less than half an hour of getting into bed, and i don't really expect DD to either. Bedtime or naptime in my house means DD has to go into her room (she's not in a cot anymore). I put her to bed but i don't go in again and again to redo it unless she is crying or comes out, then i comfort her/put her back into bed with minimum conversation about it. She often plays quietly or looks at her books at bedtime for a bit and i'm totally fine with that. Right now as i type this she's been put down for her nap and i can hear her rolling about in bed. Her sleep is HER business - i decide when she goes to bed, but SHE decides when to sleep.
Learning to fall asleep is different for everyone. There are people whose eyes close when their head hits the pillow and people who need to read, toss and turn, think, before sleep can find them. Unless it's a safety issue or she's screaming her head off the whole time i really wouldn't worry about it. I'd put her down to sleep and listen for her not moving anymore, then once she's asleep pop in and make sure she's warm enough and not in a weird position.
It might be better, if she's the sort of person who CANNOT fall asleep quickly most times, to spend your energy teaching her to go to bed peacefully, rather than struggling to make her lie still and sleep when she can't.
... she is now standing and jumping, ratteling the bars and kicking in the cot
When dd did this, I would just go in there over and over and over and over and over and over again and everytime lay her down and say: "lay down, sleepy time. Night bunny" It took A WHILE, but eventually, they outgrow it. I did not mind her "singing" in the cot, but I did check in on her, just to make sure she is ok. It takes about 10-15 minutes now for her to quiet down. Atm dd get up maybe once, then she usually "lost" her dummy or threw her spitrag out the cot, so I put it back in for her, cover her up, give her her spitrag and say good night. It gets easier.
Just keep telling yourself that when she is 12, she won't be doing that anymore
hmmm you can't stop her moving (unless you put her in a straight jacket ).... i doubt its the 'moving' thats effecting her sleep, more her unique little personality... we put our dd in bed and let her sort herself out, sometimes she just moves about and plays, sometimes she kicks at the wall, sometimes she babbles, sometimes she miraculously goes to sleep.... personally i wouldn't be in there trying to restrain her from moving, i think it sends a bizarre message..... just leave her to her own devices and see how she goes... she is safe in her cot (presumably) so can do her no harm.... unless of course she is hysterical with anxiety...? she'll get there sooner or later, but we all have our ways of winding down - mine is rubbing my feet together in bed!!
at this age i definitely wouldn't be interfering, she will start sleeping if she is tired enough, and maybe she will be a child that takes a bit longer than others to wind down, but there's nothing wrong with that, and its something you need to not worry about... she will in the end sleep if she is tired enough, at some stage - often not when you want her to!!
OM Emma!!! I do that too, rubbing my feet in bed. DH says I am fidgeting, but it's my way to calm myself and prepear for sleep. I have a feet-rub buddy
hahahha yes!! and i recently was in a very bad bad way - i hurt my ankle playing netball and COULD NOT RUB MY FEET TOGETHER to get to sleep, because it was sheer agony, do you think i could sleep - NO! and every now and then my body would forget and my feet would be rubbing, and then the pain would set in, and so on like a vicious cycle!!! hahaha. was hell!
Aw you poor thing
As I was getting in bed last night, I was rubbing my feet and feeling so "connected" because somewhere out there was another lady doning exactly what I was HAHAHA
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).... i doubt its the 'moving' thats effecting her sleep, more her unique little personality... we put our dd in bed and let her sort herself out, sometimes she just moves about and plays, sometimes she kicks at the wall, sometimes she babbles, sometimes she miraculously goes to sleep.... personally i wouldn't be in there trying to restrain her from moving, i think it sends a bizarre message..... just leave her to her own devices and see how she goes... she is safe in her cot (presumably) so can do her no harm.... unless of course she is hysterical with anxiety...? she'll get there sooner or later, but we all have our ways of winding down - mine is rubbing my feet together in bed!!
How is things with bubba??
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