We are leaving a big gap, we won't be trying until Jonah starts school. I don't really feel siblings should be close together so they will be friends and play together, I think they should be encouraged more to make friends outside the home and as long as they "get along" it doesn't really matter if they don't play together IYKWIM?

I would prefer to have Jonah have my full attention until he's a little more independant and can understand the whole aspect of having a little brother or sister. We plan to tell him about having a brother or sister right up until the time is right and get books and things and of course he will have been to kinder and been around other children and therefore learnt about sharing and so forth.

I agree with Cailin about being able to give the new baby 1 on 1 time whilst the older one is at kinder, in our case school, and when the baby is sleeping (hopefully) 1 on 1 time can be had with the older child.

But I know there are advantages and disadvantages to having them close together and far apart, I guess you just have to go with what you feel is right for you and your family.