Is he a good baby..? And other comments that drive you mad....

[~Hestia~]

I've had the perfectly shaped head comment too, was a bit weird!

[KimmyF]

Where's the like button? My goodness it's amazing how many of us get asked or told the ridiculous things!

My pet peeve at the moment, is "I can't believe you still sit with him until he falls asleep(My DS is 3)" I used to just smile and let it go now I say "well when he's 13 the last thing he will want is his Mummy cuddling him until he is asleep let alone cuddling him at all so I'm making the most of it while I can!" or I say "if it doesn't bother me why should it bother you?"

Argh I could go on and on!

[mum_of_5]

i get
* are they all your's
* do they all have the same father
* dont you knwo what cause's that yet
* dont you own a tv
* dont you know what protection is
* are you going to pop another out for my tax to pay for it
* a baby having babies
* you dont need to put a ring on and pretend your married

[Asparagus and Lemons]

'what a handsome fella' -she is a girl.
' he is so smart' -yes, SHE is.
'Boys usually wear those colours, not girls!'
' still not walking?'
' why don't you just give her some cereal? She will sleep better then'
' you will be having her sleep in your bed when she's 18 if you don't get her out now'
' shes still breast feeding? Shouldnt you have moved to formula by now?'

Ahhhh!!

[mrscricket]

Mine is the question that people ask DS - "Are you a good big brother? Do you love the babies??". The answer is yes, but what if I answered "Well, no he is actually pretty crap. He hates them - we have to hide the knives at night" ??

The other is similar to Det - "Awwww twins! 2 girls? (yes they are dressed in pink) Are they identical? Oh a girl and a boy then!" - (on hearing DD2's name - pretty sure you can't have identical boy and girl twins) Or when people either say to me sympathetically "It will get better love" and then accuse me of lying when I say they are really, really 'good' babies. And my super favourite - "Oh I'd kill myself if I had twins" - nah, you probably wouldn't...

[feeb]

Are they twins!!! Nope 18 months 4 days apart!!!!!
Ohh its obvious they are brothers!

[Mumma T]

Ttc - so when are you going to have kids? (month 15 and counting, it's not my choice we don't have a kid yet! When mother nature says so grrr)

[SunnyRain]

My answer to "is she a good baby?" is a blank stare followed by "she's a baby. Like any other baby."

I got some hilarious advice from a 16 year old store clerk the other day. Lilac was in my sling, she woke up and decided she was hungry so started chewing on my arm. I said "stop chewing on my arm, I'll feed you in a second."and the clerk said "oh she'll be doing that until she's 4."

I had to work hard not to burst. Really? Chewing on my arm until she's 4? That should be fun. I wonder why my nearly 3yo doesn't chew on my arm any more.

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[berrme]

You will be having an elective c/s this time won't you?
Don't you HAVE to have another c/s?
You got a girl... you must be relieved.
You got a girl... now you have a shopping buddy.
You are brave having a 3rd when you have 2 boys.
Maybe you won't lose the baby weight this time.
Wow, you have your hands full.

[Kimbles01]

My answer to "is she a good baby?" is a blank stare followed by "she's a baby. Like any other baby."

As if people would expect you to say no, actually she's a bad baby? Makes you wonder about some people

I'm sick of 'do you know what you're having?' - well, hopefully a human baby, but I guess we'll find out soon!
Or 'do you know if you're having a boy or a girl' - yes, there's a 50/50 chance of either.

[berrme]

As if people would expect you to say no, actually she's a bad baby? Makes you wonder about some people

I say no all the time, and people definitely don't know how to respond. She isn't a good sleeper and likes to be carried around all the time so by societies standards she isn't a good baby. I get a lot of "oh well, she is only little yet, she will get there." lol

[berrme]

double post

[KitFaerie]

Are you going to be breastfeeding him when he's 18?

Will he be sleeping in your room when he's 18?

Oooh he's gonna be a handful when he's older.

You have to start telling him no.

You have to let him cry.

Isn't he getting too heavy for the sling?

[njon2]

Are you going to be breastfeeding him when he's 18?

Will he be sleeping in your room when he's 18?

Oooh he's gonna be a handful when he's older.

You have to start telling him no.

You have to let him cry.

Isn't he getting too heavy for the sling?

Ditto on everything you said

[Kazzo]

The worst for me would have to be a stranger walking past while I am comforting DD2 if she is crying and they say 'You are creating a rod for your back.' You have seen us for all of 30 seconds and you have us all figured out already, good on you

[sunshine_sieben]

DS has 2 webbed toes on each foot that don't affect him at all:
"Are you going to have him operated on?" - ahem, NO!

DS also is quite pigeon toed.
"You should have that looked at" - My father is an orthopaedic surgeon, he examined him and said that his hips are slightly tilted, so he needs to walk pigeon footed so as not to damage his hip joint. If you try and force him to walk "normally" (which is what used to get done) he will wear his joint down and have lots of problems later. In 95% of cases, his hip will become normal through growing, then he will naturally adjust the way he walks. If not, you can deal with that at a later stage
"I think you should get a second opinion"
Jeez, if I trust ANYBODY to have my son's best interest at heart then it is my father who I know is someone who constantly reads and educates himself on new developments on his field of expertise.

And then the usual:
Are you STILL breastfeeding? When are you going to wean? - Well, I don't know actually, when either he or I feel like we don't want to anymore.
What? He sleeps in YOUR bed? What does your husband think of that? - He doesn't mind.
He's such a mummy's boy - Well, isn't that normal? He's only 2! And I used to get that comment before he turned 1!
To my skinny daughter who doesn't eat much: "Don't eat xyz, it will make you fat" - actually, I don't want that word used around my children at all.
"Don't put salt on that, it will make you sick" - coming from my in laws who cook the blandest foods.
"You have such a bad cough, ask mummy to give you some medicine" - after a single little cough. ahhh, I don't do cough syrup!!!
Basically anything from someone else that pushes their thoughts on nutrition or medication onto my children.

[phebee]

Oh my goodness, I am never asking a mother of babies/young children anything again!

I have been guilty of asking some of the questions, like 'is he a good baby?' Or 'does he sleep well?' Or 'is he your first?' And when the woman is pregnant, 'will you find out the gender or keep it a surprise?'

All the time I ask these questions its not in a judgmental way, its genuine curiosity and a desire to make polite conversation about the baby. Mind you, its never to a stranger, unless they have volunteered info, its always to friends, colleagues or family.

I am now getting the, 'will you find out the sex?' question (no) and it honestly doesn't bother me... maybe cause I ask it myself with genuine interest.

Also, I seriously want to know, but have never asked, what DO you do with poo when it comes to cloth nappies? I honestly have no idea how you'd go about it!

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[misty]

Oh my goodness, I am never asking a mother of babies/young children anything again!

I have been guilty of asking some of the questions, like 'is he a good baby?' Or 'does he sleep well?' Or 'is he your first?' And when the woman is pregnant, 'will you find out the gender or keep it a surprise?'

All the time I ask these questions its not in a judgmental way, its genuine curiosity and a desire to make polite conversation about the baby. Mind you, its never to a stranger, unless they have volunteered info, its always to friends, colleagues or family.

I am now getting the, 'will you find out the sex?' question (no) and it honestly doesn't bother me... maybe cause I ask it myself with genuine interest.

Also, I seriously want to know, but have never asked, what DO you do with poo when it comes to cloth nappies? I honestly have no idea how you'd go about it!

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Don't stress too much, I find that it is usuallly more "who" is asking the question, and "How: they are asking it, as to whether it gets under peoples skin so much - as well as their own personal issues around that question. I know that alot of the questions posed here don't annoy me at all, but can see why others might have issue with them - depending on who it is coming from, how it is stated, and the actual individual it is directed at. ;-)