Thank you ladies.
Kelly, I'm yet to read the article you sent me. Been flat out, but thankyou. We really dont want to go done the road of yelling and smacking DD, although I must admit somedays really push me on the edge to do so.

TooMany, you have opened my eyes up and I think you have summed it up great! I am probably setting myself unrealistic expectations.

After reading everyone's reply i realised she's not a brat but a normal toddler.

Thank you all ladies, i feel calmer already even when she chucked her morning tanty because she wanted the powder duster =)