Help me convince DH to have a third...

[OceanPrincess]

Suggest it when the baby is at that mindbendingly ultracute and good stage (assuming you get one of those lol). When they are really little they are ... well ... boring. Especially to husbands. Eat-sleep-poop-fart-burp and all that.

LOL... absolutely right.

Problem is that to him, DD has only just now reached the ultracute stage - when she says Dada! all the time, cries when he leaves the house ( ) and gives him massive big bear hugs. And she's 18mths... I'd want to have #3 around when DS is 18mths, so I need to convince him before then!

[Ginger]

how is your convincing going OP?

not going too well around here dh is adament that 2 is plenty...

[Yeddi]

The difference between two or three (or more kids) wont really be seen until later in life. I love the fact that I have three siblings and that my parents went without to have a rather large family, because now as an adult there are a number of huge benefits. Firstly, I get along better with one sister when it comes to raising our children, and everyday life, so I see her more as a friend. My other sister however, I don't get along with as much, and so I would miss out on that connection if she was my only choice. I still love her as a sister, but it's different. She's a very different personality that I just don't click with as much. She however, gets along better with our brother, and without her he'd be the odd-ball because he's different again. I do however appreciate both their experience and advise that they can give in certain areas that my *favourite* sister cannot provide.

The other benefit comes when one of us are struggling and need help, emotional or physical. We each always have family to call on without having to worry about being a huge burden because we can spread the load between us. If we only could call on one person, it would be very easy to become a burden. This family community that a larger family provides will become even more vital as our mother ages, because none of us have any intention of sticking her in a home, however it is a huge responsibility to be an ageing mother's sole carer, particularly if you have a family of your own. We've already told mum to be prepared for timesharing.

[Cocolove]

We had the same issue, DD2 has been difficult from conception with me in and out of hosi all pregnancy and then her behavioural issues it wasnt until she was 3 that I even mentioned another baby, we had a chat and decided that if she would be about 4 when the baby was born it so turned out she was 4yrs 7 months when he came along.

Why not negotiate on age gaps, it seems your 2nd baby is quite young maybe he just needs some more time before he thinks about a 3rd baby