How can I explain how babies get into their mother's tummy?

[Moi]

Maybe something along the lines of 'when a mummy and daddy love each other and decide they would like to have a child, the daddy puts a seed in the mummy's tummy and a baby starts to grow'.
Not sure how to go about it if she wants to know the exact way he puts it in there though!

LOL Thing is she asks questions all the time! So I wouldn't be surprised if she did ask how he puts a seed in there.

As for "special adult cuddles that sometimes makes a baby" I'm not sure if she would ask for more details. She has a need to know about absolutely everything. Which is great, until this question. But this might be my best option.

[nothing2lose]

Why don't you tell her the truth?

I was always open and honest with my DD. It demystifies it in my opinion.

[willow5]

If you aren't up for the whole truth yet and want to avoid explanations which may lead to more questions, what about Mummies have eggs in their tummy that grow into babies. You could go on to explain exactly where the eggs are and about ovulation and the egg travelling down the tube etc and how the baby comes out when it's born. Maybe with out adding a daddy into the conversation she might not ask about his role in the whole thing.
I always like to tell the truth too, but I really worry about other kids because my DS is an absolute parrot and repeats everything, So I do try to keep in mind he does talk to other kids who's parents may not be happy with their kids knowing every detail when they're not comfortable with it, or the kids aren't ready to process the info, and possibly be scarred for life lol IYKWIM.

So that explanation isn't lying even though it is excluding certain things. If she keeps asking maybe she's ready to know if she understands when it's appropriate to talk to other people about things then it's not a bad thing to learn good luck.

[Rouge]

All kids ask at 4. It's normal. But there's a reason why psychological experts have recommended guidelines for parents and sex education.

I had a baby and DD was 4 she saw the birth. But she didn't know anything about sex. IMO 4 is way too early.

[nothing2lose]

I agree there are levels of detail which you go into at different stages of a child's life. It also depends on the maturity of the child. At four I was at school and if my parents had not already told me how babies are made, as well as having seen how animals do it, I would have certainly learnt it quick smart in the school yard from the older children!

I want that information to come from me, not the school yard.

[willow5]

In general I would think 4 was too early, but I do agree it depends on the child. Not all children develop intellectually or emotionally at the same rate. I would think most 4 year olds aren't ready, but there would be exceptions.

[Moi]

nothing2lose - I do want to tell the truth but am unsure of how much detail to go into, that's the problem.

Rouge - What are the recommended guidelines for sex education at 4 years? How do I find that out?

[Floweryfields]

Why don't you tell her the truth?

I was always open and honest with my DD. It demystifies it in my opinion.

I;m not sure I'd feel comfortable telling my 4 year old about sex - I don't think that's something a 4 year needs to understand.

[chody47]

Hmmm this is tricky! I'm trying to think of what my parents told me (I asked how a baby gets out mummy's belly button when I was 8 and my sis was born). I think I was told the names of the genitals and then told that a sperm from Dad goes inside mum and grows into a baby and then it comes out the same way. So I wasn't told the exact details but just a overview. Would a simplified version like that be appropriate?

[Rouge]

Its not about lying to your child. It's about age appropriate information. And too much too soon can be just as damaging for a brain that doesn't understand the social impacts of sex.

I just told my children a seed grows in the mummies tummy. Sometimes there's a seed and sometimes there isn't. That was enough.