Just a quicky,
I did so much preparing and thought the same, how am I going to cope, b/f, entertaining Ds with a baby. The older one just adapted. It really surprised me. There are 22mths between ds and dd and they are the best of friends. DD is now almost 11mths and they are just great together. We give the kid's their space but also teach them to play near each other or together and its just great to watch. Sure they have their moments or their days. I remembered stressing a few weeks before delivery and now I look back and think I was really silly.

Anyway we are now trying for #3. We may have 3 under 3 and half. Now that is scary. Have fun.