awww Deb IKWYM... when I go to work and come home & everything is so different, the food she's not eaten, is asleep without lunch etc... I panic. I try to not let it get to me, but its hard because you spend everyday planning the routine, working things out finding what's best for Gabby then to come home & it not be working....its frustrating.

I only can say its really hard to do, but to just let Neil or whoever is with her know that if things are done differently it may make things turn out differently at the end of the day, which makes it harder for you. Also just know that our girls know when they have been left with someone else, and Matilda goes back into her "mummy" routine as soon as we are together again. She spends every other Sat with daddy and every Sat when I get home from work I stress about what she has/hasn't eaten, what time she's gone to sleep etc.... but things usually turn out okay, and she's alive & happy and had a good time. So I have to take my stressed bum out of the room & have a shower & go to the shops & leave them again until I can relax. LOL That happens most days I work....

So sorry not too much good advice, just I hear you and its really hard to let go. I guess I've chosen not too, but to accept it anyway.... 8-[