All I can say is try really hard! Marc has always been hands on, and I have always let him even when I've thought to myself "I wouldn't do it that way" etc. I look at some mothers who have worked themselves to the bone for X amount of years doing EVERYTHING and I am glad I bit my tongue with Marc. We all need to learn, no one is born knowing all the answers or what to do. We just get more time initially as they go off to work and we are left to figure it out for ourselves. I think its really important to let dads dress them daggy and feed them something strange for breakfast as thats Daddy & them time, and I think as mothers and wives we owe it to them to let them bond with their children too. Unless they are doing something dangerous I would let it slide, or be extra helpful. Like if you know there's going to be a daddy date coming up lay out some clothes you want them to wear, teach them what goes with what. And PRAISE PRAISE PRAISE! Guys don't like to help when they think whatever they do is wrong. So praise them, but at the same time gently show them how either bubs is used to things or how to make it easier on themselves etc etc. Look at it this way, dads these days are superstars in comparison to a few decades ago. I know of old men who would have refused to push a pram let alone change a nappy or console (or attempt to a crying child. They may not be perfect but they won't get better if we don't let them

And can I also say kudos to you deb, the fact that you are aware of this so early says to me your DH has it better than you think You aren't making excuses you are trying to find solutions so keep that in mind before you go to beat yourself up again

You are doing a great job!

*hugs*
Cailin