How do you do it?

[aussienic]

Hi,

A mum I know with 4 kids was talk to me about this the other day and she was saying that it's all about capacity. When you first have one baby it is hard but the older bubs get the easier it gets and you relax into it you learn and you develop the capacity to mostly be calm collected and find it easy to take care of one baby and she said the more kids you have you relax into the role and learn what works for you. She was saying if she has 4 kids given to her at one time she would have been hiding under a rock but as the years went on and the babies came her capacity grew!

Well said

[katkins]

girls, you just do it. I don't know how to describe it. You learn what to do, when, how to make it easier on u, how to deal with the toddlers, how to shut off when u need to (like when ur BF'ing and the toddlers are arguing over a toy) and u give lots of time outs. Consistency is the key. Set boundaries and stick to them. I love it and my newest is only 4wks old. My oldest only 3.5yrs. It's hard at times, I pull my hair out at times. But it is so rewarding and you learn the tricks of the trade along the way. ATM Dh is OS for business so I am doing it by myself. It's not easy, but nor is it terribly hard. And you just have to cope, so you do. And u learn to ask for help/advice when u need it. I would still like another one or two, but thinking I'll wait till Bry is 3 so my girls are in school hehehe. That's the hardest part for me. Entertaining two toddlers 4 days a week by myself. Love pre-school day. I get one on one time with my new man hehehe

[aussienic]

wow I thought i was tearing my hair out!! hats off to you..

I am loving 4 as welll but some days,.. We are just emerging from that newborn fogginess. Getting out a bit more now thankfully

[Willow]

Love pre-school day. I get one on one time with my new man hehehe

Me too Kat!! I also get to have a nap if i'm lucky!!

[*Ali*]

You just do it because it needs to be done. Some days I find that it is midday I am not showered DD is not dressed and we have only eaten toast and popcorn but we are all happy and healthy.

Can I be honest and say it was haaaard at first! And the guilt - sheesh! Took me a few weeks to find my feet and get us all into a routine that worked.

DD was great - it was me that was in tears at the lack of time I was spending with her!

DS was really unsettled the first few weeks and I found the hardest part was when I was trying to resettle him in bed and DD would come in constantly.

This is soooooooooooooooooooooooooo us, it almost feels like you have been looking in our window and telling our exact story.

I would never take back having them so close together but it is really hard, and I am a teacher used to dealing with 20-30 kids at a time, but this is a whole different story.

[Bathsheba]

Definitely Ali! I always say that looking after a roomful (25) preschoolers in long care setting was easier than my own three kids 24/7!

[Willow]

Ali maybe it's the name - we have a Miss Tori too!!

Promise it gets better. Our DD is quite a bit older than yours, but we're two months further along and it is sooooo much easier now. Hang in there!