What everyone else has said! I'm 6 weeks in, had feeding issues for the 1st 3 weeks or so, couldn't stop crying, then DH had to go back to the UK for his mum's funeral when DS2 was 4 weeks, and so I've been just totally utterly exhausted, physically & mentally. But, and I hope I'm not jinxing myself here, it does seem to be getting easier, DS2 is starting to become a litle more predictable, and is having some longer sleeps. He sometimes has to cry a whole lot more that DS1 ever had to, but only because I'm doing things for/with DS1 usually, which I don't like (DS2 crying, that is) , but I'm hoping that this too will even out over the next few weeks. Frozen dinners, a sling, and a fair bit of co-sleeping have been my saviours, and I'm turning a blind eye to the housework, except for the bare minimum. I also keep reminding myself that as far as DS1 is concerned, it's only going to be for a few weeks, in the grand scheme of a lifetime, so I'm trying not to stress too much about the fact that it sometimes feels like I'm being very unfair to him, in terms of time & attention. I am trying to make sure that I maintain our bedtime routine together, so that he gets at least something each day that's just about him. And like the others have said, accept any & all offers of help.
Thanks girls. I'm feeling a bit better now - my milk is in and feeds are starting to get better. We've started co sleeping when things get too hard and DS2 decides he needs to be with me after a feed at 1 or 2 am and won't settle. He's a chuckier baby than DS1 (whose chucks we could count on 1 hand) so maybe just takes a bit longer to settle after that feed than I remember DS1 needing. At any rate he's a little hot water bottle in bed with me on these cold nights. My mum has arrived like a knight in shining armour and if it weren't for her I'd never be feeling human. Fingers crossed it keeps going better from here. At least this time around I know there's no such thing as the cuddle police!!
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