i have the same views on the harnes aswell, i still do, but honestly it has saved part of my sanity, i was given a monkey one for dd1, (its like a tedy backpack, but a monkey and straps to there chest.) i have to use it on ds2 who will be 4 very soon, he calls it his monkey tail, and ocasionaly pretends he is a monkey. if i dont have it with us, he is a nightmare, running off touching things, tripping people trying to take off with items, you name it. he is no angel with the monkey but i know were he is, i can tell without looking if he is playing up (feel the pull on the strap)
I agree about the straps but they also saved me when i have twin toddlers that used to wander i didnt have the backpack harness but a wrist harness i got 2 pink ones the brand is mothers choice they kept me sane.
Yep, agreed, it feels wrong to put the harnesses on them but I will definitely be getting one for DS when this bub comes. I won't be able to control a crazy two year old with a little one, so to keep DS safe it'll have to be a harness. I'd rather he be safe and me feel like a meanie than him be taken or run off in the carpark or something.
My DD is the same, if im not holding her hand (which she hates) shes gone without a look back. Today feeding the ducks was horrible, she wouldnt hold my hand nicely just kept throwing herself back to have a tanty and eventually banging her head on the concreat
Havent wanted to use a harness, but the older she gets the more i think she is gonna need one for her own safety!! But then the other day a freind put as her status on FB "grrr if you cant control your childeren, dont have them! just dont put them on a leesh!!" I was like okay.......well mabey you have been blessed with a nice toddler who doesnt run away!! but that doesnt mean other people cant control their kids, other babies are different!! It really got to me, if thats the view people would have if i did get one, that i couldnt handle my child..... :shakeshead:
I really don't get this aversion to harnesses. We lock/strap our kids up every day... whats so different about a harness compared to a lock on your door, fenced yard, safety gate?
Personally I'd much rather my child alive than worry about what something looks like!
Harnesses, simply harnesses. When we used to go shopping (4 kids), there was only one way to keep them under control and that was harnesses.
The ones they have now are great, they don't look like harnesses and are quite cute. BG's daughter looks spunky with her monkey one on I've seen the wrist ones too, with the spiral lead.
Before I had kids I never liked the harnesses either. But you know what? When you have a bolter, they are the only thing that works. We always keep it in the bottom of the pram, and if DS2 is out of the pram it goes on. I usually don't have to bother with holding the stap now, I just leave it tucked up in the backpack bit (it is a monkey harness), because he knows now that if he plays up or tries to bolt then I hold the strap and he has no freedom, if he continues to play up he goes straight in the pram.
There are some wrist straps you can buy instead of the harnesses, I used to have one for DD. But the boys never liked the wrist tether, they have never had any problem wearing the backback harness though and love the monkey.
I agree with the others re the harnesses, we haven't needed it yet so haven't got one.
What I do is tell him if he doesn't hold my hand he's going in the pram/ trolley/ will be carried and follow through with it. That's usually enough to get him to settle down as he much prefers to walk.
Not sure how much longer it's going to work for though...
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I've seen the wrist ones too, with the spiral lead.
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