Yes they are close, 19 months (would have been 20 but Tom was early!). We were TTC but I was happily surprised about how quickly it happened. I think in our case a small gap has worked well as the boys are great mates. Jack has not had any jealousy, he loved Tom from day one. And he was just old enough to understand about Tom being a baby and his brother etc, and also independent enough that he could do things himself while I was feeding a baby etc.

It has it's moments Gill, but overall it's not too hard. I was sick a lot during the pg, so I found that hard with a toddler. At times I wondered if I was mad. And also the first 6 weeks or so with a new baby were very full on (especially as all our plans were thrown into chaos by the early arrival and DH ended up having to be off from work while I was in hossy and then go back to work). And there are days when they are both teething or sick and it's exhausting. But mostly, on a day to day basis it just isn't as hard as I thought it would be. They both sleep at the same time most days so I get things done (and time to myself). And they both go down for the night early as well. Tom's routine has slotted in around Jack's nicely. Also, they play together well so I can get things done while they play together for a while. As I said in the other post, I have no regrets and wouldn't change a thing.