I had a plan in my head of how I wanted to have 2 kids close in age and just did it without considering whether I was ready or not. I don't think it was the smartest thing to do as I have really struggled. I thought it would take longer to concieve DD but as usual, mother nature works in her own way, not in my timeframe lol. Before DS, we had been told we wouldn't concieve naturally. Even though we proved them wrong with DS, I had a fear that number two wouldn't happen very easily. I was afraid the gap would push out to 4 or 5 years if I waited longer to get started. Clearly this fear was unfounded for me. I would wait a bit longer if you don't feel ready. If I could go back I would probably wait longer too. It is starting to get easier but it's been a hard 2.5 years for me.
Getting to having our DD1 was a bit of a bumpy road. And for ten months after she was born, I knew I wanted another, but didn't really think about it. Then as soon as I got my cycle back, that physical urge was there. Because of our bumpy road,we relinquished control. We decided that we would be happy with any age gap and just let it roll from there. Admittedly, our problems weren't fertility related, so not quite the same. But it's important to remember that there is no perfect age gap - they've all got their pros and cons. Baby number 2 will come to you when the time is right, whenever that is, and it will be the perfect gap for you.
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