Getting to having our DD1 was a bit of a bumpy road. And for ten months after she was born, I knew I wanted another, but didn't really think about it. Then as soon as I got my cycle back, that physical urge was there. Because of our bumpy road,we relinquished control. We decided that we would be happy with any age gap and just let it roll from there. Admittedly, our problems weren't fertility related, so not quite the same. But it's important to remember that there is no perfect age gap - they've all got their pros and cons. Baby number 2 will come to you when the time is right, whenever that is, and it will be the perfect gap for you.