Wow, I'm sorry so many of you find it hard to get or afford sitters, but I'm glad I'm not alone. It doesn't help that DH thinks I'm wierd for being really picky about who I would have as a sitter, and is pressuring me to get something organised. I do want to spend time alone together, but its terribly expensive to get a sitter, and like you all said, hard to relax if you don't trust the person completely. I think I would also feel this whole pressure to REALLY enjoy the evening/outing if you were paying a sitter because it ends up costing so much. Sigh!!