No.5; Mack will play on his own sometimes, but like your DD, never when I need him to, and it is only if I am sitting on the couch. I don't have to be watching him, just as long as I'm not doing anything I really need to be doing. Enter Pinterest and other phone based time wasting.
Clover; The other kids (DD and DS) try to entertain him, sometimes its okay, but no comparison to be held by Mummy. He regularly raids the kitchen utensil drawers, as well as pulling things out of the kitchen cupboards. The utensils don't last long before I have to go round them up from throughout the house, or rescue his fingers potentially from tongs and the can opener. As for him 'stock taking' the cupboards, my sanity will not cope with that atm. He also helps himself to sponges and 'cleans'.
Lol, I had to write out this reply on paper this morning, and as I did, I had the wiggles on. And Mack in my arms.He was dancing before, standing on the coffee table, until I sat down to write, then he turned around - "MUM! HOLD ME!". Arrrrgggghhhh! (yes, new wiggles are awful, we have "vintage" wiggles, lol).
JLeigh29; Yeah, the whole co sleeping thing makes a *huge* difference. I don't get that housework or me time. I would have to start prepping for tonight's dinner yesterday lunchtime, and if I had a kitchen to work in. Currently there are dishes from Monday/Tuesday (and the days since) piled up in the kitchen, waiting to be washed. I have refused to do them, they are the job for the Man and (mainly) the Boy. But obviously they haven't been done, even though he has been home ALL DAY Monday, Wednesday, and Thursday (yesterday). It's not like he does any other tasks about the house. Last night I sat at the dining table chopping (slowly) mushrooms and capsicum for pizza with Mack sitting on my lap, fingers on the chopping board. That really sucked.
A container of pegs might keep Mack occupied, but only if I try to put them away while he tips them out. Hanging up and taking down washing from the line outside is my only doable tasks. He loves playing outside, but I can't leave him outside while I do stuff. Am considering moving the kitchen outside though! Oh, and he lets me put washing on as he knows that when the machine is done, he gets to go outside.
It is not enough for his highchair to be touching me. I have to be holding him, and eating with me holding him is quite normal. When I lose my appetite from the screaming, I don't get hungry for ages. I just get extra cranky from lack of food.
I am not entirely happy with the sleeping arrangements. Again, he has to be touching me to sleep. Either on the boob, or against me, or actually ON me. I don't think he needs night feeds, that is just a huge comfort thing. Unfortunately dummies are a no-go. I would love to get him to sleep independently!
Santosha; Thank you, I will look up that blog. And your brain typed just fine.
Arcadia; Intense is an understatement! Yep, he's sixteen months. He will go to DH, but not much, and certainly not as much as I would need. There is no "at night after he's asleep". He goes to sleep either just in my arms or on the boob, and wakes immediately if I make the smallest move to put him down. Or even just think about it! I can't get any more housework help than I'm currently getting. Which is next to none.
Tried the tv, don't have an iPad, etc. Still no toilet sanity. No distraction works well enough.
Thank you, I just don't feel very amazing.
I have booked him into the creche at the gym in town (25 minutes away) for an hour on Monday mornings. Hopefully we can build it up from there. DS was clingy too, but not like this, and after being in (long) day care, things improved immensely. I am hoping for the same miracle here. Whilst I won't be able to go home for the time he is at creche (probably even if we manage to stretch it out for the maximum of three hours per session), I can have my me time. He is good at shopping, etc, and I prefer to take the kids with me shopping so they don't go crazy the rare time they might go otherwise. I hope to maybe find me. Maybe my hobby. Or maybe some ABA training.
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