I can see his ribs and spine :(

[UntoldAngel]

My DD1 was similar weight-wise, she was born at 2.9kg and didn't hit 6kg until almost 7m - at 12m she was 7.6kg and even now she is light for her age although she is quite tall. She just has that physique and takes after DP. Are you or DH small builds?

We aren't small builds, but we aren't big either. My family is fairly tall, I'm the shortest at 5'8", and solid build; DH's family is prob no taller than 5'10" and pretty average weight.
Guess I'll just see how he goes, who knows it might all change when we start solids.

It's just hard to know your bub is okay when everyone says how cute and healthy a big chubby baby is, whereas everyone says "oh he's soo tiny / how premature was he / you need to feed him more" and look as if there is something wrong with him

[Inertia]

I was paranoid about Boo's weight gains too. At first they were huge... and then they were so small. Would take her months to change the "big number".

Out of my ridiculous paranoia I started taking her to the baby nurse at the chemist every week to get weighed and measured. Its monetarily and judgement free. Extremely awesome service. Anyway, she was weighing and measuring Boo every week, and every week saying she is just perfect. One week I said "but she hasnt really put on much weight, she is down into the 5th percentile!" and the nurse told me that she hasnt grown much taller either. She is proportionately perfect, 5th percentile for height too. She is just a very sweet LITTLE girl and there is nothing wrong with that.

Was good to be reminded that weight isnt everything. That as she said, if she had been putting on more weight then we would be starting to look at possible overweight issues!

Sometimes other people are helpful, and sometimes they just need to shut up!

[onthefly]

Stop this bad mummy talk! Lots of wet nappies is the best sign that he's getting plenty of milk. 2hourly feeds is good - how many would he be having?

I could see DS's ribs at that age, still can! He's a slight little thing, is all. What about his face, arms and legs? Good covering on there?
Really sounds like he's doing fine - if you're worried and don't want to be automatically told to go to formula, then give the ABA a call, or speak to an LC. They know what's normal for breastfed babies and can give you advice and reassurance.

[UntoldAngel]

Stop this bad mummy talk! Lots of wet nappies is the best sign that he's getting plenty of milk. 2hourly feeds is good - how many would he be having?

Up at 6 in bed by 8 so about 8 feeds, maybe a couple less depending on if he sleeps through the day.
His arms and legs have actually filled out since he was born, he use to have skin rolls instead of fat rolls and his face has filled out too, so I know that he is fine.... I must stop listening to people who say otherwise!

[*Sparklez*]

as long as he is happy n isnt lacking in anything which by what u describe he is on healthy little boy i would shrug off any other suggestions that u need to do more..
like i said my son is 4 n only 18kg but he is as healthy as can be..
listen to ur heart not the voice of others... that will always make u second guess things

[onthefly]

Yeah, he's good!
Some people get way too caught up in the numbers on the scale - it is not the only (or necessarily best ) indication that your baby is growing well.

[Kazbah]

One thing my friend did was take weekly photos of her baby - the same day each week. He was also a small bub, but looking at the weekly photos and seeing him growing is amazing!!! We didn't notice him growing, getting bigger - but the photos certainly did!

[meow]

We're becoming such an obese nation I think we struggle with seeing normal weights these days. My MCHN had a poster up about the risk of overfeeding children just to meet a perception of how chubby the baby should be... maybe remind your family of that next time they say something. Your son sounds like he's eating well and is happy & healthy so I'm sure he's the size he's supposed to be.

[Persephone1]

Firstly, I just realised who you are

Secondly, I agree with all the PP - you are doing a fantastic job and Mr P is just doing his own thing. I don't think I would recommend more weigh-ins if they only stress you further. And besides, stress doesn't help you, your milk supply, or Mr P.

Massive Belle. Thinking of you and your very sweet boy.

[Nelle]

UA I used to get comments from people asking if #1 had been unwell, if he had enough feeds, etc...he was a long and skinny one too. The only saving thing for me was that in my head I KNEW that he was eating enough, his output was fine, he was happy, chirpy, not lethargic. He just didn't look like all those chubby delights. You talk about leg rolls - that sounds good, #1 never had those. Stringbean to the max.

If you think there's a problem, then get him checked out, but if the only issue is that he looks more slender than other babies, I really wouldn't worry. I think that people forget about genetics sometimes.
And, funnily, I didn't change much with my parenting of #2 and he was as roly poly as they come. My stringbean and butterball.

[UntoldAngel]

haha Nelle - he doesn't have leg rolls, not even close. But when he was born and for a few months after he had skin rolls, whereas you see most bubs with fat rolls. He has filled into his skin now

Originally Posted by Persephone1 Firstly, I just realised who you are

oh it's good to be recognised

[Cass72]

First of all I'm sure you're not a terrible mother....you're concerned enough to put in this post!

Bubs always lose weight in the first week after they're born so cross that worry off you list. I had a great CHN who told me that as long as he doesn't drop down 2 percentile on the growth chart in a month then he's doing fine. My youngen is a lightweight too but he's been in that percentile since birth.

I'm pretty sure that the ABA says 5 really wet nappies is good - and well mine went through a stage of poos every second day only and a friend of mine well her little one used to only go every 10 days. I rang the ABA when I had some doubts about him getting enough to eat and the lovely lady ran through a checklist with me. I think you can get it off their website. The other thing to look for is that his eyes are nice and clear and his skintone has good colour and if you lightly press on his arm it doesn't stay indented but springs back. Honestly they are great to chat to and will put your mind at ease.

Best of luck! X

[Early Kids]

You are doing a great job and bub sounds like he is doing beautifully.

I can sympathise with you we have endless weight battles around here, stick by your guns, if you don't want to formula feed you don't have to!

Keep up the good work

[Marnikat]

You are obviously a great mum - you wouldn't be worried about your little man if you weren't! He is obviously a healthy, happy bub - it doesn't matter if he isn't really chubby! And from experience topping him up with formula won't necessarily change his build. My first DD was formula fed and DD 2 is fully breast fed, never had formula and looking at their baby books they are gaining weight exactly the same! Sometimes our babies are just the size they are

[Now we're 3]

I'd love to know who it is that planted the seed of doubt in Mummys minds that all out babies have to be chubby in order to be healthy. I too have a little skinny minny baby and at times wonder when I will ever be truely comfortable that he is what he is and there is nothing wrong!

Listen to what all the pps have said and come back again and read their comments at the moments when the self doubt creeps back in. From what you've said he's obviously healthy and happy. If I find the magic solution to not worrying I promise you'll be the first person I tell. All of my friends had bubs who were in the percentile charts well above 50% so it never even occured to me that i could have a 10% bub. What I've been told time and time again is to check (over reasonable period of time) that they are tracking along the same line and then all is good.

You are a fantastic Mummy and your son is lucky to have you on his side xxx

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

DS eats all day and I can see his spine and ribs. I'm not malnourished and you can see mine.

You're completely correct when you say if your son wanted more then he would ask for it. There you go, he's getting enough.

[~Lashes~]

I must stop listening to people who say otherwise!

YES YOU MUST!!! i recently took my daughter to the health nurse for a 9 month check, was told i am over feeding her, and her head is to big. now if she was my first baby i would probably burst in to tears and been a compleate mess, but i know she only eats and has a bottle when SHE wants them, and her big head comes from my side. to look at her she is proprtioned very well, the chubb fits in with the "big" head. pffft to them! if he is a happy baby, and sleeping well, dont worry about a thing, my first born was a thin bub, he still fited in 000 at 7 months old. dont worry he might chubb up when he starts solids, then you can stick it in her face!! you see him everyday and know yourself if he is happy and healthy, go with that, not what someone said who saw him for 5 mins and made a judgement on the scales.

[~Kim~]

B, how did you go on Monday?