Sorry will reply as best I can, but thanks to all your replies. DH just got home so he has taken DD for me.

that is a pretty full on work load by anyone's standard let alone when you are also fighting the constant mind battle of PND-land (oh how i know how exhausting even dealing with that alone is!).

i don't have any real great "tips" for the sleep . we also feed to sleep and when she is uber wakeful bring her to bed with us (but TBH i find that i wake up much less restful IYKWIM).

FWIW DD2 barely sleeps duting the day. we get on average only one 1 hour nap. always been like that. soooo different to DD1 who slept like a log

and it is a real bummer that your counsellor is not up to scratch. it can take a bit searching, which rather cruelly is totally impossible to do when you have PND...oh the irony!! but i can offer the name and number of the one we went to if you feel the need for a change (i had a great journey with her and got through without meds...if that's your way too IYKWIM).

big one of these and praying that the sleep fairy comes for a visit soon!!!
Thanks hun, don't know whether she'd be near where I am though. i'm sure my counselor is ok it's just that I don't gel with her and I find she rushes me so doesn't make a comfortable environment for me. That and I have DD with me so its rather distracting.

Hi,

Your little one sounds really pretty normal for that age. There's no failure in all of that. Babies DO wake frequently at night for at least the first 6-12 mnths. That's why so many mothers actually do co-sleep - because we need the sleep and they sleep better when they are close to their mum. Breastfeeding to sleep is normal and it's what works - that's why we do it. I really just don't get those books that recommend you put a baby to bed awake - even wake them up to put them to bed. Crazy! It really won't be like this forever. They change (thankfully) There is barely a mother alive who hasn't walked out of the room and left their little one crying. Sometimes we have just had enough.
Much of the stress comes from trying to achieve something that is basically working against nature - trying to make babies sleep alone for long periods of time.
Tell me, has she started solids yet? Do you have a family history (either side of the family) of allergies and intolerances (including asthma or eczema?) Is your little one well? Has she ever been sick? Do you have help and support at home?
Hi Barb, yeah i'm fine with the over night waking especially when she just feeds to sleep. I think i'm still recovering from saturday night when she was awake every ten minutes and didn't want boob! so I was at a loss to what to do. She is not an overly cuddly baby so won't let me rock her to sleep and will only feed to sleep at night after her first sleep for the night. Which generally takes me two hours to get her to sleep in the first place. Occasionally she will let me get her to sleep in the sling but not always. She is well but very grizzly at times (maybe due to overtiredness), she's an active bub and wants to be always on the go. I.e crawling and rolling around like a crazy baby. She is well, has only had a cold which she recovered well from. Her first three months of life she pretty much just screamed the entire time, until I stopped eating dairy and I seen a dramatic improvement. There are allergies and intolerances. DH has dairy issues (but he still eates it despite his reactions). I get eczema and asthma. I only have DH as support but he's recently stated his own business so is not home much. I have no other family that live nearby. She is a mummy's girl and really doesn't like been handed off, she is also super senstive to sounds and noises. She wil start crying if you cough or blow your nose or have a certain sounding voice. Also crys when other babies talk to her in there baby talk.

Ill be back soon after I have cooked tea while kids occupied.
But just know that I am here to look after your LO when ever you need and I can even come to you while you have a rest! xox
Thanks for the offer, but doubt she'd let anyone but me look after her. but your welcome to come over as a distraction to things. Thanks for the other suggestions will see if getting her to bed before she is tired works, but yeah I don't kike letting her cry too distressing for the both of us.

Thanks everyone else, i've go to go rescue DH from DD cos all I can here is crying!