Be back later to reply to the other stuff. But just need a vent after my counseling session today. Basically the whole time was her arguing with me telling me I should just do CIO or controlled crying. And that I'm creating problems for her future by picking her up everytime she cries. And that feeding her so often when she wants it overnight is bad for her to, and that I'm creating the problems and making her worse by responding to her. Talk about make me feel like s**t! I thought counseling is meant to make you feel better not worse!

You need a new counsellor. Since when is it a counsellors job to give out (dictate) parenting advice. What a load of crap. A counsellors job is to listen, and to maybe suggest exercises and strategies for YOU to find your own resolutions. Seriously ditch her, she is not doing you any good, find someone who is better at their job.

(Personally I am very wary of 'counsellors' as there is actually very little study involved in becoming one, which means that although there are some good ones out there, there are also alot of hopeless wantabe phychologists as well. Maybe if you cannot find a counsellor you like, you could look around for a pyschologist or someone else who may be more help.)