Hey Hun,

xoxoxo A big hugs xoxox
This all sounds like normal 2yo behaviour they try to push the boundaries its all part of them working out for them selves where they fit in to this crazy world.

My advice to you - if you'd like it is change your routine jsut a smidge... I found that with 2yo's they can read pictures pretty well so do a picture of what you would like him to do... and I would advoid adding in the play until everything is done soo... have a picture of a bottle (milk), then clothes (dressed), bowl (breakfast), sunscreen, teeth, shoes... add them in the order that you ask him to do them, and then point to what he needs to do before play, once they are all done, then let him play.

With dinner - put it in front of him, if he doesn't eat it he doesn't get anything else - he'll only go to bed a few times hungry

Routine is good - strict routine however IMO doesn't work.

And the way you get through it - is by pushing through each day - becuase there will be a time when he will understand exactly what you say and you'll be able to talk to him rationally and reason with him (I think this starts to happen as an adult :P)