You poor thing. Both my boys self-weaned so I haven't been through this and can't give you much advice. But I can offer some hugs.
The plan sounds pretty good to me, although I'm not so sure about the set bed time. I've always found that the boys go down much more easily if we get the timing right in terms of their level of tiredness, rather than the time by the clock. Some days will be earlier, some later, depending on what has happened during the day.
The only other advice I can think of, is that if she doesn't like the soy milk, maybe you could try something else for her to drink. If other types of milk aren't suitable, maybe just water, and she could get her calcium from other sources.
I do wish you all the very best. This is a very difficult time for you, and I hope it eases soon.
Manta ray - thanks for your support. I have always followed her cues but lately she has been going to bed later and later and still not sleeping much past 7 with 2-3 wake ups during night so I figure if she goes to bed at 7 then at least she has more chance of getting more sleep. I am def not a stickler for times but I think tomorrow and next night I am going to try.
I think it was around that age that DS went down to one nap a day - around 10.30/11. Then I think he went to bed at around 7.30ish (which has changed again, and is going to change again soon - can feel the change a comin!)
I can't help with the BFing though since I don't do it, but just wanted to give you a ! DS has only just started solidily sleeping through the night on a regular basis. And he's nearly 2!!!!
Yes maybe one sleep a day could be worth a try. Maybe from 11am? Then bed at 6.30pm. I did that with both of mine, and it worked well. I also persevered with the sleeping because they had to know the bed was for sleep. I would go and pat, but never got them up once they were in bed.
good luck xoxo
PS DD2 had allergies too and we used Goat's milk, you can get that at woollies/coles. It seemed to go down easier than soy.
DS had one sleep a day at that age, he started going down at about 11 and it moved later til about 12.30 now, he still sleeps for 3 hours of an afternoon.
He weaned himself so I have no idea what to advise you there, so did DD2 and with DD1 it was so long ago I can't remember how I did it, I know she was 7 months old cause I went back to work full time.
When DS was 12 months he was waking every 2 hours for a BF through the night and I ended up going to Tresillian cause I was at the end of my tether trying to work 3 days a week and deal with that and 3 kids. Its not for everyone but it was a last resort for me and it worked.
what we did to gradually cut out the night feeding was to break the association of bed with b/f. so i would give her her last feed around 1/2 hour before bed. she would already be dressed for bed (and we would have gone through our bedtime ritual of massage and lullaby). after her feed she would do some quiet play or some cuddles then i would tell her it was night night and we go and find DH for a goodnight kiss. put her in her sleepbag and into the cot. we too have a fairly predictable bedtime between 7pm and 7.30pm. although if it has been a crazy long day then we go a bit earlier or if she accidently slept late a bit later.
it worked pretty well for us, but when there is some unsettled periods she still will cry out for a b/f. we are not fully weaned so i put it down to that.
could you possibly try the new system once you are all settled? or is that too far away?
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