Aw, talk about beating someone when they're down. I don't think even in hindsight any of us know what would definately have worked or not, it's all a matter of trial and error so what's the point in saying it's your fault, silly people, how do they know it wouldn't be the same if you'd done it 'their way'.

I concur that some babies might just prefer shorter sleeps - but if you are interested in trying a routine and aren't totally opposed to a bit of initial crying (only say that because this isn't in the gentle parenting section so am not sure whether I will offend by suggesting) - I found the advice and routines in a book I was given at my baby shower really helpful and the results worked a dream for us so am not sorry we did it. If you are interested I can PM you the title but don't want to put it up on the boards in case there's backlash which might detract from your original post.