Hi Georgi, missymoo84, Nettie and Saram thanks for your replies
I've deleted the video from myspace because i was a little worried about anyone having access to it....i'm probably just being paranoid but i feel a bit funny putting my little guy on the big bad web lol
In the video he pretty much rolls onto his tummy/side over and over again while i'm trying to settle him (he's wrapped with his arms in) and constantly knocks out the dummy..

Yesterday was absolute hell. He fought his sleeps all day..each nap (he has 3per day) was a struggle and it took around 2 hours to settle him each time. I'd wait till he was absoluety tired (well at least i thought he was..) and then i'd wrap him, feed him and when his little eyes were just closing i'd pop the dummy in and put him into bed..well as soon as i put him down surprise surprise he was wide awake again! So i'd get him up but then he'd just grizzly and winge as if he's tired sooo I'd do the hole thing again..and again.. it took 4 attemps each nap! By the end of the day i was exhausted and so teary. Luckily DH had the day off work so he could help out..i think it was an eye opener for him to see excatly what its like everyday.
The thing is i just have no idea what to do with him, i feel like i can't read my own son's signs. I could swear he's tired and ready for bed but then he just wont sleep.
i've tried;
  • not wrapping him....no luck he just keeps pulling the dummy out
  • Wrapping and no dummy....just scream untill i put the dummy in and then fights the wrap
    • putting a mobile above his bed for him to look at and try to distract him from rolling...no good, seems to over stimulate him..had the same problem with his big brother.
  • no dummy and no wrap...screaming, screaming and more screaming
  • holding/rocking him to try and get him to sleep...thinks its play time, seems to wake him up more and doesn't help with his brother making noise
  • no wrap, and putting an extra dummy in his hands so he wont pull the one in his mouth out..no luck just drops the one in his hands and goes for the one in his mouth
  • He has gentle music going in his room (has since birth) doesn't seem to help
putting him down at the FIRST tired signs....no luck, he ends ups playing/whinging and screaming in his cot

He slept in a sleeping bag (found an old one of DS1's) last night.. its one of those ones that has the flaps over the sleeves so i can keep his hands inclosed....it seemed to work, he didn't pull the dummy out but he woke 4 times for a feed (every 2-3hrs )... not sure if this has anything to do with the non settling, he's been feeding every 2-3hours round the clock for about 6+ weeks.. its horrible because he's so fussy during the day and then night times are hell too..i'm just not getting a break The MCHN suggested solids so he's having 2 teaspoons full of rice cereal 2 times a day, he seems to like it and opens his mouth for the food, he has no tounge thrust reflex left so its going down well......please no judgements, it was a hard decision to make and i've always believed that breast is best until 6months but i'm desperate and we have noticed a tiny improvement there.

Anyway this morning i put him on his tummy to sleep and after about 1/2hour of whinging/crying ( i didn't leave him to cry, was patting and stroking his back) and he finally went to sleep...he slept for 1 1/2 hours which was great... i'm going to try and see if that works for his next sleep

I thought maybe he's cutting a sleep out because he's staying awake for up to 3-4hours at a time (too long i know but he just wont go down) but i really have no idea

Anywho he's sitting in his rocker next to me and whinging...he's been up for 2 hours now so i might see if i can get him down...i'm trying to get his brother to have a sleep too so i can grab a quick nap....not holding my breath though.