DS1 & DS2 were planned but DD was a big surprise. My guilty thoughts were for DS2 because i really wanted to feed him longer and i didn't get to (made it to 14-15 months which i am happy with none the less) and i was feeling quite guilty as we'd discussed more children but had decided that maybe we were happy with our family as it was. DD was never not wanted but she wasn't 'in the plans' which i did really feel guilty about.

BUT she has brought much joy and my goodness what we would have been missing out on if she hadn't made up our minds for us. THe boys are clearly meant to have a sister and DH and I are certainly meant to have a daughter.

The guilt will hopefully pass for you and the expectation of you new addition will be nothing but pure joy. Your DD doesn't know that she could have had you and DP to herself a little longer and the love that gets spread is doubled (tripled etc...) with each new addition. I'm sure your DD will love having a brother or sister.

Good luck and look after yourself xo