DS1 & DS2 were planned but DD was a big surprise. My guilty thoughts were for DS2 because i really wanted to feed him longer and i didn't get to (made it to 14-15 months which i am happy with none the less) and i was feeling quite guilty as we'd discussed more children but had decided that maybe we were happy with our family as it was. DD was never not wanted but she wasn't 'in the plans' which i did really feel guilty about.
BUT she has brought much joy and my goodness what we would have been missing out on if she hadn't made up our minds for us. THe boys are clearly meant to have a sister and DH and I are certainly meant to have a daughter.
The guilt will hopefully pass for you and the expectation of you new addition will be nothing but pure joy. Your DD doesn't know that she could have had you and DP to herself a little longer and the love that gets spread is doubled (tripled etc...) with each new addition. I'm sure your DD will love having a brother or sister.
I fell pregnant with Miss T when Julia was 1yr old also, its actually a really good age gap and remember you still have 8 months before the new bubba is born, so all will be ok, just enjoy and cherish the time with her before the new baby comes then include her in everything when the new baby arrives, buy her a present from the baby etc. My girls were so excited to receive presents from Annabel when she was born 2 weeks ago! and Julia was great when Tara was born (she was 22 months then).
hugs, its hard not to feel guilty, I understand. xxx
Jamie was only 9 months when i got preg with jazz at his birthday i was very noticeably preg and no way did that steal his thunder he did that himself by showing everyone he could walk he had only done it for me and DH before that little show off that he is
it will be fine dont worry about it xoxoxoxo
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