An imaginary friend?

[leebee81]

I had two imaginary friends. their names were Cindy Bananas and Capilano Honey (!). My sister had one too. I think it normal, we both turned out ok anyway. Its a sign of an active imagination IMO, which I think is a good thing. As long as seems to be enjoying day care and not stressed by it I wouldn't worry too much.

[fionas]

Sorry, I don't know if it's a coping mechanism either but my sister had an imaginary friend called Mrs Darling and would have tea parties with her in the loo! Then one day she announced to mum that Mrs Darling had gone and she had said goodbye to her.

[sushee]

Thank for your replies. It's funny that you mention the speaking thing Nadine because his daycarers think it could be that because a lot of the kids don't speak well yet, and he gets to babble to this 'friend' that it's a release of the pressure from having to constantly try to communicate. At home he'll go into looong spiels of non-sensical babble to his dad, and his dad always humours him and pretends they're having a proper conversation. I wonder if he's made this 'friend' up because he doesn't get that sort of interaction at daycare.

The carers have reiterated that he gets on with other kids like a house on fire (one of my concerns) and that he has a real best friend, a boy named Tristan, and they hang out together. So whether it's just his overactive imagination, or someone he can 'talk' to who actually understand him, I don't know.

Lol at the chicken!!! And Capilano Honey! Loooove that name! Lol!!

ETA must have posted at the same time Fionas. I had an imaginary friend growing up too and I think he just went away after a while, too. I can't remember what exactly happened. Maybe he immigrated to the another country? LOLOL!

[AngelPunks]

are you sure it is imaginary - what if he's connected to (for want of a better word but not with a bad connetation) a ghost or spirit.

children at that age don't question their psychic ability, so it is perfectly normal for them

[MantaRay]

Jack has one from time to time. He also seems to pretend that I am there when I am not. Like one day when I was at work DH, MIL and FIL took the boys to the railway museum. That night Jack was telling me about it and I said I was sad I couldn't go too. He replied "you were there mummy".

I wouldn't worry too much. It sounds normal to me. And if it is to cope with some stress then I think it's a good sign that he is able to find a way to cope in a positive way instead of being sad and/or angry. I would say he's advanced for his age and is doing just fine.

[sushee]

Thanks MR, Karl said the same thing re being advanced for his age and being creative about coping with stress - that it's a good thing.

Schaz it's funny that you say that. My mother believes in spirits (as Asians tend to do, despite being devoutly Catholic) and she firmly believes it is the spirit of his 'twin' - the other embryo that was transferred with him that did not take. I too have my thoughts about spirits so am open to the idea, whether or not it is the other embryo, and have no issues with it if it is the case.

[Pretty Butterfly]

As he is so young, the thought of a spirit intrigues me. I babysat my cousin a lot years ago, and she CONSTANTLY talked to someone not there. She too was only young. She has gone on to talk to many "imaginary" people, some are family that died before she was born!!

Mason, my 3rd, was to be twin that didn't make it, and he is a very insightful person. I often wonder if he chooses to be alone a lot, or if he is with his sibling. He often wakes up through the night, telling me the blonde haired girl keeps him awake. He has been doing this since very young, and is now 8. BTW, most of my children are blonde, including me!! Mason is the only dark haired!!

[~Belinda~]

Sushee, it may be a spirit he is connected to. I am very spiritual and have had encounters my whole life. I had people who had passed over around me as a young child, one night 3 were sitting on the end of my bed and I used to frequently talk with them.

I think my daughter sees them too and she is only 5 months old, she'll smile and laugh at nobody there! My father was psychic and my great grandmother was a medium, seems it has been passed down the generations! I really think my father is with Madeleine, he passed away last year when I was 5 months pregnant.

I would not be worried

[~clover~]

DD2 has them occasionaly. She'll be running around playing & holding their hands & being mum.

Now sit there & stay there!

Sounds just like me. I think its cute & funny. I had one too. His name was David.