DD is 18 mths and has been going through this the last 2-3 months, specifically bath time. Like you, we had a great routine, we would say "Is it time, DD?" and she would run to the hallway and dash to the bath. But now she cries pretty much every time and has to be carried to bath by DH. She generally settles after a few minutes and ends up having a lovely bath.
I felt terrible about it but we persisted every night and DH still does bathtime, and she is slowly going back to the way she was. I can imagine this is definitely wearing you down if it is every single task! Actually, now that I think about it, DD usually wants me to do most tasks too - give her bottle, change nappy etc. I think (I hope) it's a phase and soon we will have little Daddy's Girls
my DS has pretty much always wanted me to do the bulk of things for him. then i started working one day a week for a couple of months last year & he & DP had some lovely father/son time together. that was great for getting DS to get used to daddy doing lots of the day to day things. and he never got upset that i wasn't there either - it was only if we were both there that he wanted me.
hope it works itself out for you soon, it can get a little frustrating!
We have a similar thing happen (kind of) DH works FIFO.. the week that hes home, DD obviously still gives him kisses and plays and reads ect but anything like bath/dinner/getting bottles is always me.. but as soon as i go to work (which sometimes isnt until 4 days into when hes home) the roles reverse and its all about Daddy and Mummy isnt allowed to do anything, the first time this happened DH was very upset that he wasnt able to do anything, but once i went to work that first day and it changed around he felt better.. the next week when this happened again we were ready for it and so now its just something tht happens. i dont think it will last forever.
Maybe like someone has already suggested if you could leave (go and grab a bite to eat on your own.. hmm, heaven lol) and let DH do everything and maybe that will swing DD around?
im sure its just a phase and wont last forever.
Hugs, i know how draining it can be.. its one thing when your other half isnt there and all to help (being at work) but when they ARE there and cant help thats something different altogether, i feel you. believe me
All my kids have gone through that - except Daddy was the one they wanted, which makes life really hard when daddy has to work and I am the one stuck looking after them, whether they like it or not.
My only advice is for your DH to try not to take it personally, and that they will eventually grow out of it.
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lol) and let DH do everything and maybe that will swing DD around?
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