We have a similar thing happen (kind of) DH works FIFO.. the week that hes home, DD obviously still gives him kisses and plays and reads ect but anything like bath/dinner/getting bottles is always me.. but as soon as i go to work (which sometimes isnt until 4 days into when hes home) the roles reverse and its all about Daddy and Mummy isnt allowed to do anything, the first time this happened DH was very upset that he wasnt able to do anything, but once i went to work that first day and it changed around he felt better.. the next week when this happened again we were ready for it and so now its just something tht happens. i dont think it will last forever.
Maybe like someone has already suggested if you could leave (go and grab a bite to eat on your own.. hmm, heaven lol) and let DH do everything and maybe that will swing DD around?
im sure its just a phase and wont last forever.

Hugs, i know how draining it can be.. its one thing when your other half isnt there and all to help (being at work) but when they ARE there and cant help thats something different altogether, i feel you. believe me