In the last two weeks Zander has been driving me crazy with "I can't" to absolutely everything, from opening the toliet lid, to picking up his toys or using his fork/spoon at dinner. I suddenly reaslised last night that maybe he's feeling jealous that I do everything to help Juliette but I'm not doing much to help him, so he says he can't do it. The problem is that now I've had the realisation, how on earth do I deal with it? I can't keep doing it, otherwise he's just going to become lazy with me doing everything for him. But how do I deal with it?