My only suggestion is to make a game out of doing thing for himself so say mummy will race you to the toilet to see who can open the lid. Or you could try and reward him for doing the things himself. I also use mummies big boy or big helper heaps too. Heaps of encouragment and rewards i think is the only way to get through the first few months of jealousy when the new bubs comes home. Good luck and i hope it all sorts it self out soon.

Nikki