thanks for all your responses, they've been very helpful!

Rhyb- you must be supermum! I struggle with getting one organised sometimes, you are doing such a wonderful job!

Last night I tried having dinner early, I was making pasta so started at 5.30 and it was ready by about 6 so we all sat down and ate then, then gave DD a bath and she played a bit while I cleaned up. i think I just need to give her an afternoon snack a bit later because she was starting to get a bit grumpy! I think that's the way to go though, DD was having 2 dinners because she would have her own at 5.30 and then be picking stuff off my plate when we sat down for dinner later! Probably not a good habit for her to get into. Lol