Just one baby?

[Rach75]

after nearly 2 yrs of TTC after Jack 18mths of that on clomid we decided Jack was going to be a only then bam 2 cycles later completely natural conception and Luke was conceived

I dont think only kids miss out on anything its what works for you and yours

[Persephone1]

DH and I may have to make the same decision one day. We conceived through IVF, and it was a tough ride. There's so much to consider if/when we decide to TTC for Number 2 - and in the end, the decision is really out of our hands.

Here's an article you might find interesting on the topic: Only-Child Myths Persist as More Parents Choose One Kid

Good luck with the decision hun.

[briggsy's girl]

we have already made this decision. having been through all the surgeries, IUI's and IVF, and the number of losses we have, neither of us have it in us to go through it all again (not to mention our financial state now is VERY different and not at all set up for IVF expenses!) - so, unless a natural miracle happened, DD is going to be an only child.

i don't think she will miss out on anything - yup, would be lovely for her to have a sibling BUT she won't miss out on anything by not having one. she has cousins and friends that she will have relationships with, and i (personally) feel she would miss out on MORE if we put the financial and emotional straing on ourselves to try to go through AC to conceive again kwim?

[krysalyss]

We have an only child by choice. We never wanted more than one and now that we have our lovely little family of 3 (plus hairy dog) we still feel the same way. Its for a lot of reasons but most of all feels right for us.

[deletedit]

I'm an only child and I'm perfectly normal, honest! *grin*

No really, do what works for you. If one is the number that chooses you, go for it. And go stick it to anyone who nags you for more. Mothers-in-law and grandmothers tend to be the worst offenders

As someone said further up, there's a LOT more couples choosing to have only one child these days, so its not like this is the 50s where you were weird if you had less than 4. You'll be boringly average.

[MummaSue]

Thanks so much for the response guys, good to know I'm not alone - I certainly am when it comes to people IRL.

We've only just had missy and already people ask when we're going to have another one. They look at me like I've got 2 heads when I say that we may not. It's like it's totally inconceivable (pun intended) to some folks.

And not everyone knows of our infertility issues so i guess they just think that I'll be popping babies out now that the first one is here. Not sure I'd do that even if I could!

Thanks again, it's food for thought hey?
Sue x

[MumtoA]

Hey hun,

I am an only child like R.Elf and i to am completely normal as well!!! I went through a stage when i was younger (like primary years) where i would have loved a sibling but i grew out of it pretty quickly! My parents always ensured that i was allowed to have lots of time with friends and being an only child i got to do a lot of things that my friends from big families didn't - ie. going to Disneyland!! I was also in day care from a fairly young age as my mum had to go back to work so i learned quickly how to play positively with other children...mum said that people would often comment on how well adjusted i was - god only knows what they thought i should be like!
Since having my DD - she is the same age as your little one - i can see why people choose to have only the one. I have actually considered only having one, however my DH would be pretty devastated. Being a mum is so hard sometimes and my DD caused a bit of damage on her way out so the thought of having to go through it all again is daunting to say the least!!!
As an only child, my only suggestion is as they get older it can be hard to not be to overly protective and involved in every aspect of their lives. At times, especially as a teenager and young adult i just wanted my parents to leave me alone and concentrate on something else besides me!!!
At the end of the day i believe that the decision to have one bubba is ours only so good luck and enjoy everything with your missy moo!

[HotI]

We've only just had missy and already people ask when we're going to have another one. They look at me like I've got 2 heads when I say that we may not. It's like it's totally inconceivable (pun intended) to some folks.

it's a bit wierd, eh? i'm still recovering, and just enjoying watching my little one grow and explore for now. someone asked us when number 2 was coming along- i just said 'when DH grows a uterus, he is carrying the next one'