He is definately extremely shy. Staff at his day care have mentioned this to me a few times. That is where his breath holding spells began. They know how to help him calm down as when he gets a little upset he seems unable to control it and takes a long time to calm down. I think this alone will cause him trouble at kindergarten. He is very clever when talking to adults and older kids but seems to dumb himself down when talking to kids his own age.

He has a lot of nightmares and fear about different things, including being by himself. He wakes a number of times at night because he is scared to be by himself and he wont go into his bedroom to get dressed even though we are only about 5 metres away - cries and yells he doesn't like to be by himself.

Maybe he is just extremly shy - but what do I do about it? Who do I go to for help? I honestly don't think he is emotionally ready for school (one day care teacher says send him and the other says wait) but my as my husband says - will another year make enough difference to justify keeping him back?