Ooh yes, been there done that!!!

Don't lose heart about the dummy - your DD sounds about the same as my DS (wouldn't happen to be a capricorn would she? Stubborn little buggers) and I couldn't get the dummy off him until he was about 3 months off being 3 - before then it was just too bloody hard. When he was closer to 3 he could understand more and I could reason with him (and I suppose bribe the little poo head.. lol)

Its super hard with sleep deprivation and a whingy toddler - and another screaming baby! I dunno, as soon as the kids start screaming my patience levels expires realllll quick.

You are a GOOD mum.

xx