Lately, Lily has been having really psycho tamtrums that are uncontrolable. It will be for the littlest things too, like if she is doing something naughty and we say no, she'll just lose it. She has also started hitting Jacob in the face whenever she is cranky. Never hits me though, so not sure what that's about but she is really quite violent. The main thing is the constant tantrums though, they are just getting worse and she will have in average 5 major ones a day. she will scream until she's purple, throws anything she can get her hands on, hits, bashes things, throws herself around without even caring if she hurts herself or not. We're not sure what to do here. We are very persistant with saying no when she does something wrong but this seems to making everything worse, but we can't exactly ignore what she doing either. She has 100% attention from both of us 24/7, so it's not attention seeking.

She is starting to do them when we are out too. She will not sit in her pram anymore and can easily get out no matter how tightly we strap her in, she will not sit in a trolley, just climbs out of them aswell. So only option we have is to let her walk around which is fine except she won't hold either of our hands and just mucks up touching everything and anything and running away. Even tried using those strap things you tie on them but she will just lay on the floor and cry until its off her.

So we let her walk around by herself but another problem arrises when we get back in the car. She hates getting back into her car seat. Will throw a huge tantrum and go all stiff so we cant get her in then when we finally do get her in, she has now figured out how to get her arms out of the straps! They are as firm as they can go yet she still manages to get free, which of course is dangerous but how do we stop her from doing it? This is going to be so hard, especially with a newborn, plus Jacob will probably go into the air force beginning of next year and will be gone for 10 weeks. What am i going to do with her then?