At my wits end.......

[hj1981]

I am pretty much about to lose it!

I am so tired and cranky and really feel like admitting myself into the nearest Mental Hospital!

What is wrong with my DD2 (18mths)? for about the past month now she has been soooo majorly clingly to me! will not go to anyone else, always wants mum mum mum mum! I am fine with that, makes me feel loved and wanted.

But

I am over the constant whinging and whining. It goes on and on and on pretty much all day, she wants to be picked up by me all the time. Most of the time i am happy to pick her up for a cuddle, i know they are only little for a short amount of time, but when the pick up and cuddle dosen't stop the whinging that's when it starts to get to me!

I have not had a break at all from it, along with everything else i am trying to do, study for exams included i am exhausted mentally and physically. Tonight i lost it and yelled "for gods sake shut the f**k up" then i had to walk away. Now that within it's self is not me! i don't swear (well not in front of my girls) and im pretty calm cool and collect! I feel like the worst mum in the world for losing it tonight, but i have had enough!

I know she has been teething and that has given her grief, last few days she has had explosive diarrohea, and i took her to the doctor yesterday and she has an ear infection so is on antibiotics.

But whats the go with this all lasting at least a month? is it a stage she is going through? or is something else wrong?

I do not remember this at all with DD1.

I really am getting down in the dumps about all of this.

[Babyluv]

Sounds like she has been unwell and with teeth on top it could be pretty uncomfortable. Hang in there it will pass.

[OceanPrincess]

Sounds like my little boy - he's coming up 2 in July. Today was worse as he's a bit sick... But even when he's not sick, he follows me around crying "mum mum mum" and when I ask "yes?" he says "up!" and when I say "mummy can't pick you up bub, my tummy hurts" (legitimate), well cue tantrum.

Any little thing causes a tantrum. It does our heads in... But hang in there, it does seem to be easing for us so fingers crossed it eases for you too, sometime soon.

This too shall pass

[Shanti]

Poor thing has been teething so that makes them more clingy.
All kids are different in personality so perhaps she's just a bit more 'maintenance' than your DD1 was/is?
I'm sure it's just a phase....it will pass.
Perhaps also she senses how busy you are and is needing/demanding more 'quality' time spent with you?

[Artechim]

My DD1 did that for ages. I thought of her as 'The Screeching Shadow', because no matter where I went or what I did, there she was 2 inches behind me and generally squawking about something. It really made me crazy! No advice, I think we just waited it out and she outgrew it. Hope that it passes quickly for you.

[hj1981]

Babyluv and OP- i so hope you are both right and it passes soon, I'm really not sure how much more i can handle

Shanti - LOL i had to laugh about the maintenance thing up until recently DD2 has been the easiest, less maintenance bub i have ever come across LOL, absolutely NOTHING compared to "high maintenance and Miss Princess DD1 LOL. And i have been giving her sooo much attention that i have hardly had much chance to study for my exams on monday and tuesday, and i think that is prob why i am finding her really hard to deal with atm too. Because i know i should be studying for exams but can't, therefor i am getting frustrated

Artechim - AGES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! oh my god! im going to start digging my grave now, or admitting myself into a padded room

I know this is not fair on her, but gee mummy really does need a break! I cried today, absolutely bawled my eyes out...... another thing i don't do often

[BlackRose]

Oh my goodness, this is exactly what we are going through too! I am due to give birth ANY DAY now and DS has changed from this well behaved sweet little boy to a clingy whingy whiny little person. I know he's getting his back molars because his hands are in his mouth and I think he senses something is going to happen with me and the impending arrival of his little sibling but omg I am seriously going nuts and trying so hard not to shout at him.

[hj1981]

BlackRose - it is hard isn't it? i agree, maybe your DS is just trying to get all the attention he can get before bub comes along and then he has to share you? Dosen't make it any easier to deal with though i know! Hopefully he gives you a little break soon though

[Miss.B]

Oh hun, your poor poppet seems to have it really rough ATM, I guess you're just going to have to ride it out . I know when DS is only slightly more whingey than normal, I get really impatient with him as normally he's a pretty easy going toddler, and then of course I feel guilty because he just wants to be cuddled more than normal (be it ear ache, teething, high temp etc). I can't imagine a child wanting to hang off you all day long, but I guess because she's unwell she turns to you for comfort. I guess that little ones don't understand why they are in pain, and can't do things for themselves so they turn to mummy. Big hugs, and I hope it passes for your DD quickly.

[onthefly]

oh it is normal. I have to keep reminding myself of the same thing.
Do you wear her at all? When DD is insistent and I need to do things she has to go on my back.

It does sound like your ability to cope is compromised right now - can you call in extra help and support? That, combined with her extra need, makes things extra hard for the both of you.

[BlackRose]

BlackRose - it is hard isn't it? i agree, maybe your DS is just trying to get all the attention he can get before bub comes along and then he has to share you? Dosen't make it any easier to deal with though i know! Hopefully he gives you a little break soon though

Thanks hun. I feel bad for the little guy in a way. He doesn't quite understand what is going on, mummy is boring and can't play with him or cuddle him as much as he wants, his poor mouth/jaw are hurting, he's started waking during the night, mummy and daddy are both cranky from being tired. No wonder he's a little out of sorts.

I'm so glad it isn't just us though! Hopefully this phase doesn't last long for any of us!!