I don't know how to break this pattern we've gotten ourselves into. I have just been following Phoebe's lead, but she wants to be awake a lot later than I do.
I know she is tired, but she just won't settle for the night til after 10. Tonight she won't feed properly (keeps getting agitated at the breast) and when I rock her to settle her she goes rigid and cries. I put her down because I just couldn't handle it and she is quite happily lying there, kicking away.
I am so trashed. I need to be in bed earlier. I wouldn't mind waking up after only an hour or two to feed her and then again later on. I just need that extra hour.
I seem to recall Natty being similar in the beginning - not wanting to settle before 9pm. But I can't remember how old she was when she started going down earlier.
Anyone shed some light for me?
Hey Amy, I can't really help, just wanted to send some your way. I'm having the same trouble myself. It's 10:45 and Ivy is happily dancing away in her bed and it's only a matter of time before she gets grumpy and will want to be picked up... but will remain wide awake, often until 12:30 or 1. AARRGGHH!! Hope it shifts soon for you hun. Am really interested to hear other people's thoughts.
More hugs...I know the feeling all too well! Normally Hayley won't sleep at all between her 9pm and midnight/1am feeds...put her in her cot and she just cries. She will drift off in my arms but as soon as she gets put down she is wide awake again. I've just popped her in her bassinette and remarkably she has stayed asleep for at least 10 minutes now! I'll see if I can have a quick snooze on the lounge before she wakes up.
I would love to know how to break her out of this routine too...DF & I have popped her in bed with us a couple of times and she'll sometimes drift off to sleep then but I don't want to make that a habit.
Aw, girls. I feel like I haven't got it so bad now, lol.
Kat: Hugs to you too. I don't think I'd cope being awake til after midnight. Does Ivy let you sleep in in the morning?
SS: Congrats on the birth of Hayley! Wish I could help you out. I hope this is just Hayley working out the difference between night and day - you might find that her rhythm just changes by itself over the next couple of weeks...
I think she's ready to settle now... Finally. Thanks for the hugs and the understanding, girls.
i hear you gals as well
boof has just gone down now as well- hopefully for at least a few hours!
lol our babies are allready keeping nightclub hours!LOL
No expert here...got my own bag full of probs, but just wanted to let you know what we do - our babies are virtually the same age...
Harry goes to bed 730-8pm. We put our other children in bed at 7pm, then i head out to the lounge room, with H. Lamps off, just tele on (not too loud), and i put H on breast - both sides. He falls asleep and i usually get 4 hrs out of him till the next feed....sometimes its been 5 hrs....i think this works for him because a) its quiet....no little sisters running around screaming....and also, i try not and let him sleep past 530pm....it can be reallllly hard (especially bathing, and cooking dinner all in this time...), sometimes i let him catnap in the rocker out in the dining room, so its not a full deep sleep. It seems to work for us.....
Both my kids wouldn't go down for the night before 10/11pm until at least 4/5mths. It got better after that, and now they both go happily (mostly!) to bed at 7pm (aged 2 and 10mths). Takes ages though doesn't it?! They usually say "the first 12 weeks" but I think the whole first 6 months are the worst for unsettledness at night, unless you are lucky.
Amy - Bailey started a 'decent' bedtime (anywhere between 630-830) at around 9-10 weeks I think it was, so hang in there. I dont recall really doing anything different, he just kinda worked it out for himself so now I am actively looking for the tired signs and rocking him till he is 'almost' asleep and letting him go to sleep in his cot which he usually does within 10 mins. One thing that helps us though is this star projecter thing which plays lullabys, when Bailey hears it, it always stops him faffing about and he is asleep by the time it turns itself off (can go for 5 or 10 mins). Its about $20 from Big W. When I put him back to bed after a middle of the night feed and he doens't go back to sleep straight away I play it too, it works a treat (for him anyway). Is there something like that you can associate sleep time with for Phoebs?
Hugs mate, I know you have been sleep deprived for a while, if I lived in Sydney I'd come and give ya a night off (between feeds that is LOL)
PS having said all he above, tonight he is bucking the trend and is still awake as had a mammoth afternoon nap - LOL, nothings foolproof!!
Well, she was in bed fast asleep from 7pm last night (slept til 2:30!)... but only because she hardly slept AT ALL during the day. Was completely miserable, poor darlin. I didn't look a gift horse in the mouth though - I was in bed at 8. LOL!
When will she settle earlier?
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your way. I'm having the same trouble myself. It's 10:45 and Ivy is happily dancing away in her bed and it's only a matter of time before she gets grumpy and will want to be picked up... but will remain wide awake, often until 12:30 or 1. AARRGGHH!! Hope it shifts soon for you hun. Am really interested to hear other people's thoughts.
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