Our magic age was 10 weeks. Hang in there ladies. I don't think there is really anything you can do routine wise except to just be semi consistent. we kept the "bedtime" feed quiet and I always put her pj's on. Then DH would stay up until 10pm while I got a rest in after the 7pm feed. Tag team dinners were very common too. They eventually sort themselves out. All the hard work is worth it. DD2 is now four months old and life is really great now (even with some night time wake ups!!) compared to the first months. Tough times!! Hugs to you all xx