Just wondering where you are feeding her? Is it light and bright and stimulating or dark and quiet? I know with DS keeping it dark and quiet and keeping him wrapped at night feeds helped to give him the message it was 'big' sleep time and not just a nap.
I do remember though that many babes go through a very unsettled phase at about 6 weeks. Could your partner take turns staying up with her for a few hours while you get a bit of sleep in before the 10 pm feed?
do you have a night time routine??
until 3 weeks DD2 settled whenever but one night at 3 weeks she woke in time to have a bath when DD1 did and so started our night routine, from that night on she went down just after DD1 did, around 6.45pm, she knows this means sleep time now, maybe try a wind down routine an slowly bring the time back earlier each night sleep deprivation is awful, HTH
Thanks for those thoughts. Macca, I am feeding her in our lounge room. I do keep it dark for middle of the night feeds, and when I'm trying to settle her for the night, but perhaps I should start this earlier. When Natty goes to bed she is still up with us and the lights and telly are on. I should probably keep her where it is quieter.
We don't really have a bedtime routine, the bath sometimes happens and sometimes not. DH is rarely home at Natty's bathtime due to not finishing work til 6pm or later most nights. I can't bath both girls at once, so Phoebe gets a proper bath on the nights when DH is home and a little bird bath on the nappy change table while Natty has her yoghurt when I'm on my own with them.
I am feeling ok about things again this morning, but things seem a lot brighter in the day time, LOL!
Thanks again for the support everyone.
You sound like you're doing really well Amy! I have no doubt that things will get easier for you, hopefully soon . I know how hard it is when dad isn't home for the dinner/bath/bedtime routine, and we only have one child!
We just went with the flow with ds and he was a night owl too. He wouldnt settle for the night till between 10-11pm either. I used to go to bed after the 8:30pm feed and dh stayed up with him until the next feed then he would go to slepp and stay asleep.
This lasted until around 3 months when i decided that we needed to establish a stricter routine. It took about 2-3 weeks for ds to get used to our new routine and for me to gradually bring his bedtime earlier and earlier as i didnt just want to all of a sudden put him to bed 3 hours earlier than usual and expect him to comply
Thanks Janie - you're lovely Fortunately DH is usually home most nights by the time Natty needs to go to bed, so I have help then. It's just bathtime that's particularly tricky!
Thank you Kristy - I have heard that 12 weeks is a good time to start establishing stronger routines. I'm not sure how I'll manage with a toddler in tow, but I might just chill out for another month or so and tackle it then.
Hi Ladies, hugs to you all with night owl babes ...DS was really bad from 6 weeks to about three months - with this wakefullness was also lots and lots of crying, he didn't know what he wanted couldn't decide if he was tired or hungry, etc......so lots of walking around for me trying to keep him happy - tried giving him a bath to relax him, feeding him in the dark and quiet....but it did get better slowly and surely but I hate to say that still at 7 months he usually doesn't go down till about 9 pm - but that is probably me not getting him into a proper bedtime routine - need to work a bit harder on this. It DOES get better.......hang in there.
Our magic age was 10 weeks. Hang in there ladies. I don't think there is really anything you can do routine wise except to just be semi consistent. we kept the "bedtime" feed quiet and I always put her pj's on. Then DH would stay up until 10pm while I got a rest in after the 7pm feed. Tag team dinners were very common too. They eventually sort themselves out. All the hard work is worth it. DD2 is now four months old and life is really great now (even with some night time wake ups!!) compared to the first months. Tough times!! Hugs to you all xx
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sleep deprivation is awful, HTH
. I know how hard it is when dad isn't home for the dinner/bath/bedtime routine, and we only have one child!
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