Whats it like going through a pregnancy whilst you have a toddler?
Im not pregnant yet and my youngest son is 13 mths and we are trying now however i have never had two children this close and im quite excited and nervous at the prospect if the gods allow us to fall pregnant quickly.... Im 39yr in September so i need everyones fingers crossed....
My DS will have just turned 2 when this bub comes. I found the first trimester hard, you forget how tired you get and how run down feeling sick and throwing up can make you. I always felt bad for my DS that I didn't want to do anything. Besides that though it has been great, I do have to remind him to be gentle with mummy though. The best bit is DS keeps me busy so I dont seem to notice the aches and pains, well not until he is in bed anyway lol.
I had 23 months between DD1 and 2 then a four year gap between DD2 and DD3 then 25 months between DD3 and 4 and 19 months between DD4 and DS. I guess I didn't know any different so I just went with the flow, it can be hard running after them, literally speaking although I had PSD in various degrees with all my pregnancies. You'll be fine, it always amazes me how things just fit together,when it happens you'll be ready and fine and you'll have BB to fall on for advice, good luck!!!
i have a 9yr old plus my dh has two sons 14 and 17 yr old ( they live here but very independant) and then the 13 mth old. I do work however so im not a fulltime SAHM i couldnt do that anyway .....
Have a big list of activities to keep the little one happy when you are lying on the couch feeling green. Sticker books, glue sticks and shapes, rice and containers, making musical instruments.
If it's summer during this time, a bucket of water a containers keeps them happy for aaaages.
it's hard. it's really hard.....
i think the best part about it though is that you can sleep when the toddler sleeps........but that all stops when the baby comes along.
So far, I'm finding it ok apart from the tiredness. I've been having nanna naps on the couch every afternoon while DS has his nap. My belly hasn't gotten big much yet (only 18 weeks) and so I find I can still lift DS. It's a bit awkward putting him the car atm though, can only imagine it's going to get worse as I get bigger. I'm a bit more worried on how I'll cope when the baby arrives, will have 2 under 2. Hoping this one doesn't want to feed 2 hourly for an hour each time!
I found the second pregnancy reasonably easy - in fact it went much quicker as you are so busy focussing on your other child that you seem to worry less about every little pregnancy related thing. However, as some others have mentioned, I think actually looking after a baby, as well as a toddler, is much, much harder than being pregnant with a toddler. That's my experience anyway!
It was hard for me, because the pregnancy was much harder this time, so much so that if it had been my first I may not have ahd a second child! I had bad morning sickness for the first two tri's, then I hurt my back and was diagnosed with gestational diabeties and I went into labour at 35 weeks so I had to spend the last two weeks on the couch. Managing all of that was hard enough without having DD to look after. I couldn't pick her up for the last 2 months, she was very good she would play while I would watch her. Not something I enjoyed and I did feel very guilty.
That said I find it a lot wasier to look after the two girls than being pregnant.
its hard. Mine are 14 months apart and somedays I thought I was crazy. But the older they get the easier it is and it's soooo worth it. My older boys are so close and they have a very strong bond. They entertain eachother, play together and generally get along well
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