Sometimes I think maybe it is a gender thing.

Now I am NOT judging here, but I was in the shops on the weekend with P at a cafe at at the table next to us was a Mum with 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the youngest and had a physical disability/slight deformity and was about P's age, maybe closer to 2, but was TINY. She was obviouly happy and well natured but you could tell from her size and physicality that earlier in life she hasn't been well.

She was top to toe in pink with pierced ears.

I say again - I am NOT judging - but I AM curious as to why it was done. If I had a baby with health issues, I wouldn't make it a priority to get her ears pierced. So I wonder why they were done.

I immediately thought maybe that the Mum was so wanting a little girl after 3 boys that she just wanted her to be very girly and 'pretty'. (I write pretty like that becuase everyone's idea of pretty is different!)

Now, I am a bit of a dirty hippy in this regard and just want my kids to be and look whoever and however they feel right being...whoever they feel they 'are'....but I totally understand that some people like the girls to look girly and their boys to look boyish.