Hi Ladies,

I think you would agree that most mothers try and do their upmost best to love unconditionally and protect their babies. I am positive that no loving mother would let their baby "cry it out" and feel good about it.

I believe people use the "controlled crying" technique because they see no other way out at the time. A mother cannot carry a baby in her arms 24 hours a day, although I am sure we would all love to if we had nothing else to do. If you have ever tried to pat a baby to sleep slumped over a cot for an hour you know how hard it is.

What about lack of sleep, caused by a baby who will only sleep if being held/rocked etc and waking up and not being able to put himself/herself back to sleep. Without sleep ourselves we cannot function properly.

You only have to look at any parenting forum to see that most posts are about lack of sleep and how to get babies to sleep better. Any mother that had been through the CC method would probably tell you "they" cried more than their baby.

I cannot even begin to imagine what going through depression is like, a bad day feels bad enough without it being 100% worse and every day but I know if we love our children we all try to do the best that we can.