beany. I know your anxiety makes it hard, but try not to worry. It's common for adults to take 20-30 minutes to fall asleep. Actually, I think the sleep advice is that you shouldn't fall asleep as soon as you lay down as that is a sign of extreme tiredness. So good things I would take from it is that he's happy to be alone in his cot and he's getting enough sleep and isn't going to bed too tired. FWIW, I'm so jealous of DS's ability to settle himself, DD is a long way from it.