So far my little 4 week old DD has been sleeping in a bassinette in our bedroom, but after a few 2am mummy meltdowns I'm thinking of co-sleeping with her as she always sleeps best next to me or on me. I'm very anxious to make sure it's safe and I've read the guidelines for safe co-sleeping but I can't get my head around how to make it work in reality, so I was hoping some of you wouldn't mind sharing how you do it

So some questions for example:
- how old was baby when you started co-sleeping?
- did your DH/DP sleep in the bed as well, and if not was he okay about being bumped out or did it affect your relationship?
- do you sleep on a normal bed or mattress on the floor like the guidelines say?
- do I really have to sleep with baby on the outside (instead of between DH and I)? I'm scared she'll fall off the bed!
- what do you have in terms of pillows/sheets/blankets? The guidelines say to only sleep with a light blanket but it's winter, I'll freeze without my sheet and doona!
- do I still wrap baby up? And if you monitor room temperature (we have a little gro egg to tell us the temp) what should it be ideally?
- how and when did you transition baby back to their own bed?
- for daytime sleeps do you put baby in the bed or their own basinette/cot?

Sorry for the million and one questions but I want to make sure my DD is safe and secure! Or am I just really overthinking it? Any other tips you can share would be great too TIA!