Positive things about bringing a new baby home to your toddler!

[~Kim~]

My DD was a bit older than yours, but I'll tell you what I remember. For me bringing another baby home to Darcy was a joy. I will never ever forget the day he was born and she arrived and swooped up to the bed to have a look. She was sooo excited.

When she proudly told the CC girls that she was getting a brother and his name would be Nate (not that we were telling anyone anything or had even discussed it with her but she had picked the name some 15weeks earlier and had been with me - but not listening I thought - when we had discovered he was a boy).
When asked by people who were visitng and she'd beam and proudly say "that's my brother!"
When I'd discover a handful of her toys in his bed because she thought he'd need something to play with.
The way she'd hover over the pram protectively when we were out if someone approached him.

She didn't regress with her sleep or her toilet training and she had been a pretty crap sleeper. I never heard her say a bad word to him or be mean at all, she is the kindest gentlest little girl - until he started to antagonise her all those months later.
Without being told she knows to stand up for him at the park. My heart nearly burst the first time.

[M22]

friggin hell some peeps are seriusly uncool. there are so many cool things- didint really affect mr 18 moths at all when miss 2 came home. now he is 3 and she is 19 months and they have a ball. Mr 3 was and is so affectionate to her.

so- don't push- just let her see the baby when she wants to maybe take her shoppping for little pressie for bubs and help her wrap it etc. and tell her no how much new bubs love her and knows what a good bid sister is gonna be.

thank the other peeps for being so negative- that'll show em.


big hugs

[~MummaBear~]

i think the BEST thing about bringing a new baby home is watching the older siblings .. the pure Joy and excitement you see in their little faces.. they are the only ones that have no expectations on how this whole new baby business will go down they just love the baby for.. well being a baby!
My Ds's were the same age as your DD when we bought home the next bub iykwim and they were so proud to show off their new.."toy" lol
Sure some bits are hard, kids dont read the rule books but looking at the way they try and interact with bub or they way they simply look at them makes it all worth it!
Good luck... But i dont think you will need it!!!

[Doodlebug]

I agree with mummyof4, the look on their faces when they see their little brother/sister for the first time is amazig!

When ds1 left to go to the movies with nanna this morning, ds2 was having his nap. As ds1 left I had to promise to give his little brother 200 cuddles and kisses from him the minute he wakes up so he doesn't miss him. It's moments like this that make up for the grumpy times! Focus on these and you'll be just fine!

[~StarBright~]

Oh Heaven, there are plenty of wonderful things!!!! DS was 23 months old when DD was born- for the first 6-8 weeks to be honest he didnt even care she existed, no jealousy- she was just boring so he didnt bother!! He was great if iw as feeding her and all of that- and his favourite saying was, "time for baby go to sleep?????"

Then one day she got the hiccups.... Shane sat there and watched her and they smiled, and he kept saying "more" and she kept hiccuping.. and from that day- she was the best thing in the world- and every day he just loves her even more!!!!!

A few cute and adorable things.......

DS looking lovingly at DD saying "Awww baby!!"
When DD is crying if i am not close by he will run to her and say "its ok baby, its ok, mummy be here soon"
The second he hears her awake he shouts "Baby's awake!!!!!!" and runs to her door!!!! Best baby monitor on earth!!!
The way DD's face lights up when she see's her big brother!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hearing them giggle together when DS jumps in the cot with her, when he plays with her, when she see's him!!!!!

[Snacks]

I think the most wonderful thing is the way the baby responds so enthusiastically toward their older sibling. Older siblings get THE BEST smiles.

[beansbeans!]

I loved the way she fell instantly in love. How she helped with everything and was so happy to be a big sister who had to look out for her little sister.
I loved watching her get nappies and help get clothes. From the day DD2 was born DD1 just boasted about her to everyone including our animals.

Honestly I can tell you that DD1 did none of what people are telling you. She loved having someone else around. In the car, DD1 would sit and tell us what DD2 was doing, ie: shes moved her head, shes sleeping, shes cold, shes hot, she needs a toy. It was so cute. And actually she still does it today!!

The one thing that has stayed with me is that DH and I swear that they have special smiles and language with each other. When DD1 walks into the room, DD2 has this amazing smile that is only for DD1. They have always 'talked' to each other even if we have no idea what they are on about.

Also DD1, taught DD2 so much already. In DD1'a world she taught her to smile, to laugh, to roll over, to sit up, crawl etc. Thats what we told her and she was so happy to play such an important role in her sister's world.

She even tells DD2 everything that is going on.

As you can see I just love the relationship between my two. I love how special they are to each other. I love that the other DD1 cried when DD2 went to the dentist. There are so many more positives compared to negatives. Some people are just kill joys! I would ignore them!

[MrsB26]

I think the most wonderful thing is the way the baby responds so enthusiastically toward their older sibling. Older siblings get THE BEST smiles.

Sooooo true! I never thought that would happen so soon either - Evie was only a few weeks old when i noticed her noticing and responding so much to her big brother.
When dd was born, ds was 22 months old. He knew something was happening and when i asked him at the hospital if he wanted to take her home he said yes. The first few weeks he jsut ignored her pretty much - around 6 weeks he started getting jealous a little bit, lasted all of 2 weeks until he realised that she was here to stay then ever since it has just been wonderful between them. She loves him so much and vice versa!